Dad has recently gotten himself a much younger girlfriend whom he has moved in last month. My bedroom and their bedroom are wall to wall. The fact that they fuck doesn’t make me uncomfortable - so happy for them, but they do it on max volume. No joke. Every night at 11 and in the morning at 6 on the clock. These walls are paper thin apparently.

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    7 hours ago

    Just tell him respectfully, sometime.

    As a parent, myself:

    • I totally don’t mind if my kids tell me they can hear me. I appreciate knowing our communication lines are open.
    • I am still going to continue having (probably still loud) sex in the house. Unless my kids fully paying a roommate’s share of the costs to run the home, they’re still kids, not roommates.
    • I’ll probably buy the kid some nice noise suppressing audio headset as a shopping surprise, sometime soon.
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      6 hours ago

      This feels like malicious compliance to me. If I was your kid, I’d be pissed if you felt entitled to attempting to assert dominance like this.

      This is how your kids start resenting you as they grow up. Consider treating them like they’re a part of a family unit that respects boundaries instead of shoving a material possession their way to shut them up. Growing up feeling like an inconvenient burden fucks up a lot of kids in this world.

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        who’s house is it? and should 2 consenting adults adapt how they have sex so that others don’t feel like their “boundaries” have been disrespected?

        your answer seems like very much entitled. It gives the vibe that everyone should adapt to your wishes, and not the other way around.

        OP should talk to them about it. but like everything in life, if they don’t like their answer, they may need to choose how to deal with it, instead of expecting things to change.

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          whose house is it?

          If you have a kid, that kid is equally entitled to the space you’ve brought them into. That’s a burden you chose to bear when you chose to see a pregnancy to fruition.

          should two consenting aduts adapt…?

          Yes, especially in the presence of children. Even if we were talking about roommates instead of kids it should be self-evident that your roommate is not wanting to hear you having sex twice a day. Its a common courtesy to be considerate of others around you.