Nuance, undertones, rhetorical questions may as well as not exist for some of these good fellows. I must remind myself that even though someone (many someones) might lack in this department, that doesn’t mean they aren’t brighter than me in many other things.
I am curious though. How, if you are aware of this, do you watch spy, palace intrigue, double agent, psychological movies? Isn’t it detrimental to fully enjoy the acting and reading actors expressions and nuances? I guess you wouldn’t be aware that you are missing full experience?
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It’s not about me by the way, it is from the perspective of a spectator, a lurker and not about me receiving some kind of response.
No, I can’t say I’ve regularly seen that as a problem, at least not any moreso than other online spaces.
Communication is a two-way street. If one person fails to understand what you’re trying to say, that may be their fault. But if nobody seems to understand what you’re trying to say, if this is happening to you regularly enough that you have to ask this kind of question, maybe you’re not being clear enough.
As others have pointed out, text cannot carry tone, facial expressions, or other nuances that can picked up on with in-person conversations. When communicating through text, it’s important to keep that in mind and work within the limitations of text in order to be clear. Communicating effectively is a skill that takes effort to improve at.
Full disclosure that I do not know you and I don’t want to accuse you of anything, but this sounds like the kind of question that has a story behind it. If you do feel like this is a frequent problem for you, I think you should try to look inward.
It’s not about me by the way, it is from the perspective of a spectator, a lurker and not about me receiving some kind of response.
I don’t have anything against clarifications and back and forth and I don’t judge anyone
What is the goal of this post is to find people who can relate to my experience of just browsing spez site or more so, lemmy.
I don’t like to be alone in certain things and lemme tell you a lot of you feel very unintuitive to me.
As always with the exception of ADHD communities which every single member feels like I knew them for years no matter which site.
I think that the ADHD community takes things that other posters say at their word instead of making a bunch of assumptions. That is my general experience as someone with ADHD, things in a conversation are being said in good faith unless there is an obvious contradiction. Many conversations with neurotypical people feel like I’m participating in a conversation where the other person’s past experiences are being projected on to me instead of listening to what I’m saying.
While this is a great thing to consider, sometimes it is hard to figure out because people are responding to a bunch of things other than what you are saying, or because they assume what you mean is different than what you are saying. In those cases maybe the topic isn’t worth discussing.