It shows you lack wisdom and maturity.

Assuming that kids living in poorer parts of the world are neglected. Spoken like someone who has never once faced adversity in life.

So myopic.

The state isn’t going to be there for you either and your parents will be long dead and your siblings if you have them? Grab bag of maybe.

You are sooooo limited in your thinking it’s really a shame. You don’t even know the conditions some people live in even in dense urban areas like Toronto while still having kids.

Go into any rural and/or poor area in America or Canada and you’ll find poor uneducated people and they’re having kids just fine even in wealthy countries with a lot of environmental factors pushing against it.

It’s a matter of want. Own your decision don’t blame it on external factors. If you want to blame external factors for your not having kids you’re weak. My girlfriend is Kenyan. She has a 11 year old son back home she hasn’t seen in a year. She had a kid in a small rural town halfway around the world and moved to Canada to make a better life for her and her family. You know what she’s never done? Push blame outwards.

Yes, structurally we can be doing a lot better to make it easier and more attractive for people to have kids but that was and is not my point. My point is if you want kids just fucking do it. The reward far outweighs the risk and long term you’re going to be much, much better off because you’ve just grown your team.

The world has always been fucked. The question is do you bend over and take it or do you fight for positive change?

GenX actually (48) and I have 3 kids I tell them I love them daily. 2 are on the spectrum and 1 realistically will never become an independent adult.

Your comment reeks of someone who grew up entitled and has never learned how to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes.

Those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.

Lol uneducated does not mean dumb.

I stand by what I said.

The future lies in those “uneducated” people.

Everything about this whole thread screams privileged white people who haven’t known an ounce of struggle in their lives and all of a sudden things get a little tight that they can’t buy butter instead of margarine and holy hell the sky is falling!

This is why all my friends now are immigrants lol.

And we are allowed to disagree. That doesn’t however make your opinion any more valid. You can’t hold hands when you make fists.

Yes.

I was watching a YouTube video yesterday with Jimmy Carr and I think he summarized it perfectly.

As humans we are amazing at quantifying all the negatives around having kids (costs, time constraints, behaviour changes) but we struggle at quantifying the positives (purpose, accountability, pride, humility).

My regret is having kids later in life and not in my early 20’s. The little secret we all know is you’re never ready for kids. You either dive in or you don’t. After that? In for a penny, in for a pound.

Yes you can. People do it all over the world.

This new generation of child-free people better be damn well aware that when they get old they are absolutely fucked. The state isn’t going to be there for them and IF they have a SO great but even then shit happens.

The future is going to be bleak.

The other move is to broaden. If you’re a backend engineer who’s always avoided frontend, now’s the time - agents can bridge the gap while you learn. If you’re frontend-only, lean into backend, devops, infrastructure. The engineers I see thriving are the ones who can own an entire problem end-to-end, not just their slice of it. The generalist travel agents got wiped out, but the generalist engineers - the ones who can move across the stack - are more valuable than ever.

Anecdotally this is what is happening and I see it the 15 years i have been at my current job and the 25 I’ve been in Corporate IT. As budgets shift the focus is on people in IT understanding more and more while automation (LLM) taking more and more. You are expected to be a full stack dev IMHO. It could be python. It could be java. But you’re expected to know it all.

Imma eat my friends because they’re delicious.

Meesa doesn’t like this game

Yes. Pwd change should only be on evidence of compromise assuming you have made a secure password.

Security is all theatre. When NIST says make secure passwords and never change them but your fortune 500 infosec policy tells you to rotate your password every 30 days?

LOL

I have win11 on a work surface laptop pro with 16gb and I’m consistently at 15+GB used. This is corporate bloat. How do I know? I have a personal surface pro 6 with win11 and 16gb and it runs like a breeze.

Corporate bloat is such bullshit.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

If you’re not American you have known for a long time that this is America.