Now I’m curious to what was said.

In order to be charged an investigation already needs to be done. The crime she was convicted of wouldn’t require her to be a part of a larger ring but if she was and she really was covering for someone else I wouldn’t be surprise. It sounds like something she would do. She’s a very caring person.

“If i were in her shoes, id probably ask myself why id have or want those images.”

I’ve wondered about this many times. I don’t think I’ll ever receive a straight answer.

“Maybe she was/is depressed before having the images, and getting caught was a sign she wanted help, and wasn’t getting it by conventional means.”

Secretly collecting photos and then getting yourself imprisoned sounds like a pretty convoluted way to get therapy.

“As the parent, I would avoid saying “she did this to us” and making yourselves out to be the victims. Its a terrible situation, but the more you separate from her and blame her, and outcast her from social circles, the worse your relationship will be, and the higher toll it will take on her psyche.”

I mean, I will put a curtain an amount of blame on her as she did willingly download those pictures and humiliate our family but we have forgiven her and I’ve never outcast from any social circles.

“You’ve both been through enough. Work on getting past it with her.”

Thanks for your understanding. I have been thinking of ways she can get past this. The best way I can think of if she moves back to Spain and starts over with a blank slate.

Nope, I’m in the UK.

I wish it was but she really did love children. I remember when she was younger the way she would just melt when she was around young children. She was so naturally good with them I thought she would be a great mother some day.

Oh, sorry I got mixed up. Maybe it would be good for me to see someone. I have been under a lot of stress lately.

"So you are telling us all her crime was in having materials?

And you are calling her a sex offender, despite her having sexually abused nobody?"

Yes, the materials were images of children being abused and exploited. I’m calling her a sex offender because by definition that’s what she is. Somebody who has committed an offence of a sexual nature.

“I have also been looking for CP when being like 11-12, but have found none.”

11-12 year olds shouldn’t be making porn and there’s a difference between a young looking to images of people they’re age and someone who is over 18 looking for pictures of three and four year olds.

“If I were accused of something like this based on possession of materials, and someone close to me would think the way you do, that would be the thing pissing me the most by far.”

Very incriminating thing to say. Maybe you shouldn’t have materials like that.

“Pictures both real and drawn”, my ass. Whom can possibly a person making\keeping a drawing for themselves legally abuse?"

May not be a real person but people in general shouldn’t have lewd cartoons of children.

“Forgive me if this is a little insensitive, but I presume you’re not here for a pat on the back…”

I’m here to get stuff off my chest.

“How is it possible that she was released “last spring”, has been living with you, but you still have absolutely no context?”

It’s so very uncomfortable subject for both of us and doesn’t like talking about it. I don’t even know how to bring it up.

“What has happened with counselling? I’m sure it’s practically mandated as part of her release. I’m also sure that any counsellor would try at least a few sessions with you and your daughter.”

She is supposed to talk to a probation officer every now and then and the police have to check her electronics every month and she has to register to the local police. Those are the conditions to her relief release. I can try to get her on board with seeing a counsellor but it’s an up hill battle.

“How did she acquire the CSAM? Did she produce it?”

The trial was short so they didn’t go into specifics. If she produce it she would have seen a bunch of different charges. From what I can tell she downloaded it from the internet.

“How did the police become aware of her activities?”

Something about downloads and IP. Just a bunch of technical mumbo jumbo I’m too old to understand.

“Finally, are you sure she was never a victim of abuse?”

Yes, she wasn’t particularly active in her younger years. I monitored everyone she spoke to online and she never had any boyfriends/girlfriends.

I don’t know what type and even if I did I don’t think she would go along with it. She doesn’t like talking about what happened.