Oh I love that question!

What if it all works out? ✨

This one is so helpful for me, especially when things get really tough. Then it’s easy to see all the negatives, but this phrase shifts my perspective and lets me think of a more positive future 🌟

Woooowww— girl you look absolutely stunning!!! ✨

For those like me who didn’t know what exactly this was about, here’s a video of the incident:

https://youtube.com/watch?v=FrOf4_uXKmk&t=30s

Melanie

Helen

Delilah !

Your curls or your curl iron?? — Forget it, I am taking both! 😄

Ohh I have never tried, thank you!

I have mostly straight hair (it tends to curl at the very end). That awkward flip is my default hair right now 😭😂

Hey, I am sorry that this happened to you! That’s absolutely awful and disgusting behaviour. Fact is, this person doesn’t know anything about you and the way they act is a reflection of themselves, not you. You are valid.

Sending love and huuuugs 🩷

I am excited for you ! You go girl 💖

Okay first off, you’re not being insane by having these questions… those are some totally valid questions. this would stress me out as well. It’s totally okay to feel conflicted about this. Is this something you could check with your doctor or HRT supplier? Preferably this is something you want to get from a qualified health professional.

If I were to guess— it should be fine if you follow a healthy diet. Your body needs energy to grow and maintain itself. It will use it to create new cells, from blood cells, skin, hair, nails to breasts. Reducing calorie intake will make your body work to convert fats into glucose, as a source of energy, in order to keep your body going. So those fats will be used as a source of energy for your body. So by that logic it should be fine? It would be problematic if you don’t have the fats to begin with or if you reduce intake too much and your body cannot keep up at the rate of burning fats. So dropping calorie intake entirely would likely have impact. You need a healthy balance.

Now unfortunately, burning fats is a slow process and this is high school biology at best so take it with a grain of salt. Best to check with a qualified professional. Or if you don’t have the luxury, ask around like you are already doing and find a person previously in a similar scenario. If you do have the luxury please ask.

Hope this helps 🩷

Edit: I also found these links:

• https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/13m8k0r/will_losing_weight_while_starting_hrt_affect/
• https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7252590/

To add to this: Start small if it’s too daunting and go from there.

Sometimes steps you want to take are a bit too ambitious. First try smaller steps to make the big step not so big anymore.

Go and ask your crush out? HUGE STEP. Just talk to them and make small talk, maybe also a bit too big? Send them a cute message on socials or leave a note? Be creative.

What also helps for me is to voice my anxiety. To my friends or to the one you’re experiencing it with. “Okay so I am super nervous” already relieves me from a ton of pressure. It changes the dynamics and creates room for compassion. Let them help you.

Twenty seconds of courage.

Pretend you’re full of confidence and lift yourself up. You’re now the most social person ever existed. You can handle any social situation even this one.

Now, do the thing you want to do and do it for at least twenty seconds. Take your time doing it.

Often it turns out it wasn’t that scary or didn’t go as bad as you thought it would and you can continue doing it. If it does, it’s okay, you tried and that counts too. Practice makes perfect. Also know that how others act is not a reflection of your self worth.

Just a gentle reminder to give yourself some love.

deleted by creator

Hi! Thank you, I needed that ❤️

I had dinner with a couple of old close friends. I wasn’t ready to tell them about me yet. The whole dinner just felt weird not being able to talk about it.

I didn’t know how to act: myself or pretend and I felt a bit sick going back and forward between them. It was good to see my friends but the whole thing was just exhausting.

Hiya! This week I wrote the letter for my brother, which I’ve been dreading to write, with in it everything I want to tell him. He means a great deal to me, but he makes casual transphobic and homophobic comments. And some are super disrespectful.

I shared the letter with my mom (who knows, and is incredibly supportive 🥰) and she started crying and that made me cry just like when I wrote the letter 😭 She said it was great and contained everything. She’s so sweet, I love her so much!

Now I still have to pick a moment to read the letter to him and I’m scared. I’m scared for his reaction.

In other news, I started saying to myself that “I’m a woman” instead of constantly questioning it and it may seem dumb but it feels so good and fills me with confidence! 😊 I also started trying out my new name and it feels so right! I can’t stop giggling from happiness when I read it

Depends on where you are! I had a chat with my GP and they referred me to one. It’s included in my health insurance so it was kinda a no-brainer for me

Hi probably Amber, congrats! Great name btw :) It’s great that you wrote all this down! Writing can really help processing all the things on your mind! At least it does for me. When I was exploring I started to write everything I wanted to in a diary and it can be such a relieve sometimes just to put all your thoughts on paper or your phone.

My advice as a freshly cracked egg: Take it a step at a time. Maybe create a little timeline: 1. Get a therapist 2. Research what to do about balding 3. make a plan to lose weight etc

Do one little scary thing at a time and repeat until it’s no longer scary.

The only way is forward; you can make new girly memories. I started to, consciously and unconsciously, mimic women around me. Just like a little girl would I suppose to learn how to be a woman.

Sorry if I have too much unwanted advice!

Know that you’re not alone & be kind to yourself ❤️