If you can link something by them I can reconsider. (Not you, you’re in the conversation and we already know your opinion) I’ve just never heard it used like that.
The word “narc” is a slur, that almost always marks out the user as a self-identifying “victim of narcissistic abuse”. It implies a number of incorrect generalizations that have already unfolded quite neatly in this thread. It has definitely become a negative term.
Personally, I would ban all victim lingo. People on “narc abuse” subs use this language to create/enhance their group identity, which is based on a number of incorrect assumptions; “I got really hurt, so my partner is deffo a narcissist”, “all people with NPD, or any degree of narcissism are monsters”, “self-aware narcissists don’t exist”, “all of them are abusers”, just to mention a few.
We are not allowed to post on those subs. I have never met any of those people, certainly never abused any of them, yet if I post in their space, I will get banned instantly, based on the fact that I have a certain personality disorder. There is a very good reason for that; god forbid that a Narcissistic person genuinely interested in dialogue would burst their bubble, disrupt the story they tell each other.
Yet they are free to post on subs that were created to support Narcissists; free to throw about their negative assumptions, demand explanations for their woes, or downright insult us.
I do not enjoy being a punchbag for “victims”, so I would see these discrepancies addressed, and limiting the use of the word “narc” to an appropriate context would be a welcome step in that direction.
You called me a slur for my mental disorder to my face a couple hours ago. https://lemm.ee/post/20523475
And in another recent post you admitted that you’re fully aware I have NPD, so it was 100% intentional.
you have no idea how much worse that comment you linked makes you look
having a mental disorder doesn’t excuse you from being an asshole, stop wearing it like a badge of honour and get therapy
I’m not being an asshole. I’m saying slurs are bad. I don’t need an excuse to say slurs are bad.
I’m pretty sure narcissist isn’t a slur.
Have you asked:
If you can link something by them I can reconsider. (Not you, you’re in the conversation and we already know your opinion) I’ve just never heard it used like that.
Some people saying not to use mental disorders as insults:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/drawing-the-curtains-back/202204/narcissism-considered-diagnosis-or-easy-insult
https://www.reddit.com/r/narcissism/comments/hiyfu4/is_narc_a_negative_term_do_we_think_its/fwk18hj/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Negareddit/comments/5lyldh/using_narcissist_as_an_insult_is_ableist/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NPD_Memes/comments/15tirjm/dont_let_anyone_gaslight_you_into_thinking_they/
And some fascists complaining they were called out:
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/comments/a8zfg3/is_narc_a_slur/
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/nb2co7/ive_been_accused_of_being_ableist_prejudiced/
I said slur not insult.
Second link in the list.