Hi, I’m Domi.
Long time lurker, first time poster. I just wanted to say that you have all helped me a great deal.
It’s been long and slow journey unpacking the huge pile of internalised phobias that were pumped into my brain as an assumed male growing up in the 90s and 2000s. I have spent a long time in this very self-loathing “everyone is valid except me” way of thinking.
I’ve been reading your stories for a long time, the beautiful trans joy and difficult and terrible things too. You being here, being yourselves in all your glory, it has been a way for me to feel community and connection even before I could admit to myself who I really was.
So thank you all, thank you for sharing your joy, thank you sharing your hard times, thank you so much for being who you are. You’ve done more to help me than you can know.
Yeah those trans spaces are more for someone like you than someone like me (post transition). And yeah it really was this wild shift of thinking of such spaces as so scary to them turning out to be so welcoming. And eventually you just find your place in fellowship with other trans people.
The other thing is that knowing other people at a similar stage to yourself is hugely important. Someone my age who’s just now transitioning is going to have a wildly different entire experience from me given I transitioned at 20 in college, but also it’s long over. I remember the sleepless nights, the hormonal fights, the hope, and the dread and all that stuff, but it’s in the same way I remember being 16. Both groups need people who are there and people who had been there recently to thrive.
But yeah, you’re at the exciting and scary stage. Try to enjoy what you can of it, eventually being trans just becomes your normal.
Thankyou for sharing your wisdoms with me. O Captain! My Captain! 🫡. I really do appreciate your thoughts and perspective.