She was never happy with the way I was, just with how she wanted me to be. She liked the idea of me, not me. She got weirded out at me for liking girls and being born one, she tried to get me to apologize to God, become His servant, and “convert” and keeps asking me to read the Bible and form a relationship with a being I don’t believe exists. She also she found out I was genderfluid. This was the last straw for me. She asked why my pronouns were “she AND he”. I said I’m genderfluid. She asked if God made a mistake with my gender, and then said no because God never makes mistakes and I should just be a straight Christian girl forever. Is this toxicity disguised as “love” or am I overreacting?
No, you’re not overreacting. It’s absolutely valid to cut ties with this person. She seems to be placing her religion over your friendship. It’s just going to get more toxic because she refuses to respect your choices.
It’s a cult. Religion lacks scientific basis. At the end of the day, everyone is exploitable, some more than others. We all have needs and religion does a good job at filling in the gaps with tradeoff of ensnaring people through fear. The fear of hell largely motivates people to be coersive. The rationale is that belief is painless and comes easily and freely, and failure to do so is punished by eternal damnation. Value is placed on those who comform. People who don’t conform are a threat to the group, and members are trained to avoid temptations. It’s the devil leading them astray. It’s really fucked up, speaking as someone previously deeply religious.