if you do that they call you a liar and betrayer. because they make assumptions about you and they get angry when those assumptions were wrong. most folks don’t live in a complex reality where people on the margins like me exist, so they pretend we don’t.
for example people love to shit on people from my school esp because most people don’t know anyone from it. and they aren’t wrong, stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. but if you ‘call them out’ then think you are ‘one of the enemy’ or they are angry because you embarrassed them for showing them what an asshole they were for making a generalization that isn’t true. any article about kids like me who to go schools like that… 99% of the comments on it are people saying we have no right to complain and our lives are perfect and wonderful… or we are told we don’t deserve to be there if we have any struggles.
there is no winning. the people who don’t care are far and few. the vast majority of people don’t take you as you are, they judge the shit out of you based on your brand-name associations, or lack thereof. they can’t see you as a person, they see you as a brand.
Just don’t tell people until much later. Wow I can’t believe how toxic people get about it!
if you do that they call you a liar and betrayer. because they make assumptions about you and they get angry when those assumptions were wrong. most folks don’t live in a complex reality where people on the margins like me exist, so they pretend we don’t.
for example people love to shit on people from my school esp because most people don’t know anyone from it. and they aren’t wrong, stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. but if you ‘call them out’ then think you are ‘one of the enemy’ or they are angry because you embarrassed them for showing them what an asshole they were for making a generalization that isn’t true. any article about kids like me who to go schools like that… 99% of the comments on it are people saying we have no right to complain and our lives are perfect and wonderful… or we are told we don’t deserve to be there if we have any struggles.
there is no winning. the people who don’t care are far and few. the vast majority of people don’t take you as you are, they judge the shit out of you based on your brand-name associations, or lack thereof. they can’t see you as a person, they see you as a brand.