Bonus: how did this past year’s go?

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    If somebody pisses me off or upsets me, I need to stop brooding about it like a little bitch and call them out directly.

    Over the last few years I’ve learned that I avoid confrontation to a fault.

    Bonus: how did this past year’s go?

    Shit.

    This time last year I was meant to be moving into my own apartment, then I was laid off, my mortgage offer expired and I had to pull out of the purchase. I now work in a shitty purchase ledger job as a temp, where my office is 50 miles away. The pay sucks and I question why I’m torturing myself working in this role just for some recruiter to earn commission from my misery.

    Halfway through the year I had a (kinda close) friend disappear for roughly two months after a rough breakup. I met up with her at a karaoke eve when she reached out because I was worried about her wellbeing. She came on to me pretty hard, we kissed at least a dozen times, dirty danced a few times and made out once, but then she apologized and friendzoned me via text after I got home. And to make it clear, she was the one initiating all this.

    My love life wasn’t all bad though. I did date someone at the beginning of the year and while that relationship didn’t last, the breakup was amicable and we’re still really close friends.

    Still not sure what I’ll do NYE tomorrow…

  • ODGreen@lemmy.ca
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    New years’ resolutions don’t really work for 2 reasons:

    • You’re in survival mode so a year-long project is impossible to keep up, you’re living from one day to the next or paycheque-to-paycheque.

    Or,

    • You’re doing well enough to think of long time horizons. Likely then you have many medium- to long-term goals on the go, and you don’t have to start them in the new year.

    I find myself luckily in the latter case. I’ll take the new year as a chance to evaluate where I am with my goals and adjust priorities, if needed.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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    Same as every year since 2017: Stand up to racism whenever I see it.

    How’d it go? There’s a lot of racism out there, but I think I did okay.

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      Don’t kms, try to survive as long as possible

      Yeah, like same here lol.

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    I’m going semi-vegan? I don’t know if there’s a word for it.

    I cheated and started a few weeks ago, but from now on I’m not buying any more animal product although I’ll make exceptions for already bought food that would otherwise go to waste.

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      In January, a lot of people promote Veganuary. The idea is try veganism for one month. Plenty of new resources will be there. Plus, if you need any help or motivation, you can DM me, or post your questions on c/vegan. Moreover, we have a small group on Signal, if you want to join, I can share the link.

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        I’ve been vegetarian for almost 10 years, but then I got kids and we didn’t want to make separate dinner each night, so now I also eat wild game, e.g. pheasants, red deer, wild ducks, etc. Am I just a regular carnivore or does there exist a word for my weird ass choice?

        I still haven’t eating any meat from conventional or organic farms for more than 10 years.

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          My parents became vegetarian when I was 3 and so, I became vegetarian myself. They are now occasionally white meat felxitarians but I’ve remained vegetarian all my life. Genunine question, (I’m not trying to be an ah here) if the diet was good enough for you why not for your kids? I still managed to grow to be 6’3’’ tall with that diet after all. XD

          I think it’s 1000’s times better to eat wild game than industrial farm. Kudos to you! Meat eating is still meat eating at the end of the day, but presuming you get your veggies in you’d be an omnivore :P

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            Of course, you are right, omnivore. I still get my veggies, haha. My wife never became a vegetarian, and I’m the only vegetarian in our extended family, so I’m minority here and I didn’t really wanted to take the fight. Also, I try to hide the fact that I don’t eat industrial meat, from my kids. I don’t want to influence them in anyway, and if they ever want to become vegetarian, I hope it’s not because of my influence but because of their own reasons, if that makes sense.

            We have an overpopulation of red deer in our local area. I’m buying it from a local estate and they only have the stock they have. If a product is sold out, it’s sold out until the hunting season begins again. I actually don’t mind that in any way. I absolutely hate industrial farming, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with regulation of wildlife, and it helps in preserving biodiversity.

            Tons of wildlife meat goes to waste each year in my country, and it’s instead used for other purposes, e.g. Fertilizer.

            Besides that, for those who want to eat meat, it’s seems illogical to me, not eating the meat we have at hand before starting to buy meat from industrial farms. I believe it tastes better in every way than what you get from industrial farms.

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              Oh right, family… I get it. I don’t know how old your kids are but I don’t think you should hide where their food comes per se, more so if it’s the ethical choice in comparison. But what do I know, raising kids is complicated, you do you. Anyhow, any reduction in consumption of factory farmed meat is a good thing in the end. ദ്ദി˙ ᴗ )˙

      • Bonifratz@piefed.zip
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        That’s more for semi-vegetarianism though. If OP is going semi-vegan, I’d wager a guess they’ve been vegetarian already. Maybe this calls for a new word like flexanism lol.

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    I don’t make resolutions because when I did, I never managed to keep them.

    That said, I do have an unwritten list of things I’d like to do in the new year. Like may be lose a little weight. And I really need to go for my eyes testing.

    And then there’s the whole philosophy of “why next year? why not now?” and “tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life”.

    For the eye test, I’ve no good excuse, but I don’t want to walk to the place and find they’re closed for the holidays. For the weight, I’d have to throw out a lot of food first. Not the greatest excuse there either, but waste not, want not.

    (Can you see why I never managed to keep them previously? Yeeeah.)

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    Publish my novel and get back to studying Japanese. 私は少し日本語が話せます but I’d like to learn more. I don’t even know if I said that right. But by the end of the year I’d like to be fluent enough to have a conversation.

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    Get back to my pre-COVID weight. Thankfully I just moved to a new place with a gym literally across the street.

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      More so than a gym, weight loss happens in the kitchen. Smaller portion sizes and healthier options. A calories deficit is the only way to lose weight. And don’t think of it as a “diet”… It’s a lifestyle change.

      Forty pounds and counting. Good luck!

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        Yea I know. I went from >400lbs to 195; but then COVID. I swear to god I can do week long fasts and barely lose weight, I really need some kind of sustained cardio exercise on a regular basis. Just give me an elliptical and some time.

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    This coming year I have so many! In the last few years I lost my parents and pets, last one was my loyal dog.

    • To be reunited with my wife, this stupid visa system has kept us apart 8 months and counting.

    • To start living together and rearrange the house to our liking and needs.

    • To give home to another dog, it’s what him would like.

    • Keep exercising and building the home gym, involve the wife in such tasks.

    • Be more involved at work. I like what I do but these years have taken a toll on me. I try but apathy it’s there.

    • Help the wife adapt to a new country and culture.

    • House reparations.

    • Small wedding celebration here (we married in her country)

    • Planning honeymoon

    • I want to be a better Christian sometimes I have strong feeling about topics I care about and I come out as very aggressive so I want to avoid that.

    • Keep enlightening people about anarchism and to fight, in whatever way possible, against the bully system of States.

    Not on my hands:

    • In the last 7 years I have lost someone every year, family, friends, pets, parents. I want 2026 to be the year of gains and not loses.