At 15 I was fantasizing with people my own gender.
Somehow until 25 or something I wouldn’t realize I was bi.
25 when my therapist at the time helped me realize what LGBT actually fucking was and not what the media betrayal of it is.
Basically when someone told me what It actually is instead of a “disease” or “disorder”
I think I was around 13. Repressed it about as much as I could.
I was 17 I realized I was trans. A revelation that helped me better understand my sexuality as well. Turns out I’m bi/pan. I did spend several years just assuming I was ace because the idea of sex didn’t interest me until I realized I was a woman.
I was a teen when I found the word asexual and knew what was “wrong” with me. I had known way before though, I just didn’t have a word for it. On the other hand I was over twenty when I finally figured I was trans too. In hindsight the signs were already there when I was six years old or so, it just wasn’t a thing people understood back then
I should have realized it when I was experimenting with friends but I had my first real inkling at 13. Tried opening up to someone who said “ew” which scared me into full denial for a good long time.
11 and the revelation was delivered by a wet dream. I mean I looked at dicks online before “to compare” but did not realize I was attracted to it. After realizing that it just took about 5 years to start sharing that with my closest friends and another 8 years to share with my family and other friends. Started dating with 26 and have been in a happy relationship ever since (though I would love more fuck buddies, as I am still rather inexperienced there).
Always. I was confused when my parents tried to tell me I was only allowed to like boys.
Early teens:
D’Angelo’s video for Untitled (How Does It Feel)? made me realize I like dudes too. Round the same time I remember blushing heavily watching the male gym teacher do pushups.
Knew I liked women earlier when some kid snuck a stack of porno mags and a bunch of kids flipped thru em ogling the titties etc.
I was 26 when I realized that romantic attraction is even a thing. It was a year later before I realized that I am ace as well as aro.
I’m just turned 40.
Around 15-16. I used to browse 4chan during it’s heavy trap phase and realized I don’t mind if they have a penis as long as they look like a girl
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- I stopped denying that being attracted to femboys was gay.
Really I should’ve recognized I was bi when my first boner to a man was the same year as my first boner period.
I realized I was bi around 21, and probably around 25, I knew I was something other than a cis man. I didn’t know quite what, and examining that question too deeply was scary. Nonbinary felt right, but I actually started presenting more and more masculine, I guess as a way of covering up and trying to deny what I realized just after I turned 29 - I’m actually a trans woman. It’s been such a relief to understand that and be able to start my transition
I discovered I was good at flirting at 17. I also discovered that as soon as a girl starts making out with me or getting handsy I lose interest. My brain is like “yay, validation, we won, okay let’s go get a snack.”
Took me over a year to learn that asexuality is a spectrum and that there are other people who like sex in theory but can be repulsed by (or indifferent to) it in practice.
