But when I became a man, I spent hundreds of dollars on eBay to try to relive childish things

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    When I was a child, when I fell I got a bruise, a bobo kiss and a bandaid. As an adult I get a fractured limb/joint and medical debt that I will pay on until I die.

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    What I realized at 29 years old is that adults don’t exist. Everyone just figures it out on the fly and pretends to be wiser. Sometimes to elevate ourselves above other people, sometimes to give them an opportunity to steady themselves in the uncertain world.

    Realizing my parents, grandparents, school teachers and so on had always been just people hit pretty hard, somewhere in my twenties.

    But this also means that everyone deserves to have a moment to stop pretending and just comfort themselves. It’s not a sin to be childish.

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    For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face with an outrageous credit card bill and a bunch of random crap.

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    Question for everyone who can relate to OP: is your life fulfilling in areas that don’t involve consumerism/sensorial pleasure and have you reached some of the expected life milestones for your age and sex?

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      45yo here, and yeah, kinda.

      I’m happily married (for the second time), and have a decent job that no longer requires back breaking manual labour that enables me to clock off at 4pm and fuck off home where I don’t have to think about. I have a grown up kid who’s just graduated with a law degree and is forging his own path in life. All things considered, I’m pretty chill. I try to take a more adult, considered view on things that affect me.

      I don’t own my home, because my wife isn’t able to earn as much, so we can’t get a mortgage, but I’ve kind of made peace with that.

      And I’ve accrued some of the toys I couldn’t afford when I was younger. I have a collection of computers that I can tinker with, an an iPod that I love.

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      OP here.

      I’m a bachelor with a lucrative career, which has resulted in a good amount of free time and funny money. I treat my nostalgia collections like an archive and get a great deal of enjoyment from tending to them. I also have a handful of other hobbies that are intermingled or separate.

      The only typical milestone I feel like I skipped was homeownership, because I lived like a vagabond a good deal of my adult life.

      Right now the only thing I genuinely feel is missing that would increase my happiness, is an exercise routine.

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        Right now the only thing I genuinely feel is missing that would increase my happiness, is an exercise routine.

        I’ll put in a plug for cycling. You can nerd out over the latest bike gear, restore vintage bikes, or just pay the nice folks at your local bike shop to set you up and focus on the riding, it’s up to you!

        You can also ride “unplugged,” or you can measure speed, cadence, heart rate, even power output (if you spend $$$)—again, something for everyone!

        Good luck!

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        First of all, congrats! But what about the wife and kids, you know, childrearing and community building, you got any plans regarding that? Or are you still too young (in that case, double congrats lol) to be thinking about these things?

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          I’m not a spring chicken anymore, let’s just put it that way.

          I’ve never wanted children. I also realized a handful of years ago, that I’m happier and healthier when I’m not in long-term romantic relationships. I’ve got friends, immediate family in neighboring cities, and two cats. That’s more than enough company for me.

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            To each their own. NGL, I wish I had a bit more disposable income to put into some of my hobbies… but I’m happy some of us can. 👍