The trick is calming down, and seriously considering, as if you were an outside observer of yourself…

… why you like having a chasity cage clamped on you, what environment triggers cause you to desire dommy mommy stepping on them, and then realizing that, with awareness, you can choose to instead perhaps, jam a rod into your utethra.

Its kind of a zen thing, sort of.

(ahem, lol =P)