• archonet@lemy.lolEnglish
      15·
      4 days ago

      that is because this meaningless platitude is supposed to statistically be applicable to most people, it does not actually guarantee squat.

      In other words, hope and pray you’re in the majority.

      • flambonkscious@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        3·
        4 days ago

        I’m not OP but I’m learning there’s a buttload of perspective and self-talk that can ruin the most magical existence

        Objectively, I’m doing OK or great but ive been sabotaging my thinking for so long it’s hard to recognise

  • tomjuggler@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    4 days ago

    Not a single positive comment?

    I used to be depressed, somehow pushed through. There is hope ppl.

    Therapy is a real solution. Talk about it, don’t bottle up your feelings.

    Do something, anything is better than nothing. Do the dishes, make the bed!

    • DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.caEnglish
      5·
      4 days ago

      It’s kind of a neutral thing to say be honest. This advice is usually good to give young people or people who are legitimately in a situation where it will get better like grief of a recent loss that you have mutually experienced but to a lot of people this comes across as minimizing their pain, offering an ultimately empty platitude that doesn’t co-relate to their situation or as naive because sometimes things really won’t get better. Sometimes you really need to find a way to survive knowing you do so under permanent duress and that requires support rather than generic advice to grit your teeth.

      Therapy is a great thing to recommend but anecdotes of how one person got through depressive episodes by sheer force of will and by doing something that can seem a monumental task depending on circumstances can actually make someone feel worse.

      Not saying you should feel bad here. This is a very common thing people say particularly due to mental health campaigns targeted at teens but if you are looking for overwhelming positive feedback this might not be the way.

      • tomjuggler@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        3 days ago

        You are right, this was 30 years ago for me. I do remember the absolute feeling of helplessness, hearing someone else’s positive experience is less than helpful. But I stand by my advice to communicate, I had no idea at the time just that one thing can turn it around

  • NaibofTabr@infosec.pubEnglish
    42·
    4 days ago

    …alternatively, if life hasn’t been good to you so far - which, given your present circumstances, seems more likely - consider yourself lucky that it won’t be troubling you much longer.