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You have to invite people to specific things, not just a vague idea.
I just finished hanging out with a friend-couple. We did yardwork and drank tea. lol
Create a plan and then invite people to it:
“I’m going to this concert next month, come along?”
“I’m going for dinner later, join?”
“I’m bringing down the patriarchy from within and i would love for you to be there.”
“I’m doing x because y. You should come with.”So, the first time I read this, I interpreted it as these guys spent their whole lives saying they should hang out, but never got around to it.
But then, I was like, “Hey, if their graves are next to each other, they’re totally hanging out in the last panel.”
And I realized that you put people’s names on their tombstones. So, is the comic really just two guys with really weird names who are repeatedly greeting each other by saying each other’s names at various times in their lives? If their graves are next to each other, maybe they even got married or something.
“we should get married sometime!”
“totally!”
The sad part is that I’ve seen old friends do this to each other for decades … then got terribly sad at the funeral of the first friend that died.
Now I’m realizing I’m doing the same thing
:(
Then do different! Hang out with that person… SOON! (Make a plan to do it TODAY! or at least a decision)
So that are their nicknames?!
Ded, Dedd, and (off screen) Deddy.
Last time someone offered me to hang out I must’ve been in college. Over 20 years ago.
Who says they’re not hanging out? Maybe they’re good lifelong friends?
If all your friends are permabusy, there’s always the possibility that it is something to do with you. Perhaps your personality is obnoxious, or your hygiene isn’t up to scratch, or you have an annoying laugh, or something else that hasn’t occurred to you but nobody is going to be the jerk to tell you to your face how exactly you suck as a person.
Damn, not what I needed to hear right now, that one stung.
I’d be careful posting shit like that in future, whilst I don’t disagree and it’s entirely possible, I’m not sure what good can come from suggesting that idea to random strangers on the internet. It could really fuck some people up.
I call these Thought Poisons. They’re legitimately dangerous for some. I aborted reading the comment when i saw the direction it was headed. 😋
I define it thusly:
A Thought Poison is a specific type of harmful or toxic mental construct that adversely affects a person’s psychological and emotional state. These thoughts can be pervasive, self-destructive, or deeply unsettling, and may cause an individual to spiral into feelings of anxiety, depression, paranoia, or hopelessness. Thought Poisons can also do damage over time by altering one’s perception of reality, self-worth, and future, much like how poison can slowly damage the body.






