That’s just cultural patriarchy. Its the same system that has existed in almost every culture around the world.
The dowry mechanism has changed, but its still more or less rich old men using their wealth to get women.
I dont know about you, but I dont look at trophy wives and think “oh what a soul mates they must be”. Im not looking at Melania Trump and thinking “oh it must be love”… no, that woman is bought and paid for (trafficked, likely) and thats the modern dowry.
its still more or less rich old men using their wealth to get women.
The vast majority of women who are in relationships with wealthier older men are by no means being forced to be with them.
They choose to date those men because they want to. They have agency, they can make their own decisions. It’s ironically quite misogynistic and infantilizing to claim that any woman who makes what you see as the wrong decision automatically must be a brainwashed slave of the man she’s with, as if men can literally hypnotize women into dating them against their will by showing them a bank statement with enough zeroes in it.
Oh come on your giving no agency to women. Women can have kinks also some are into old guys sure. The majority I imagine do it for the money. And who cares if that’s what they want let them.
It isn’t always a one way street. Many women realize that they prefer wealth to true love and willing seek out whomever has the fattest wallet as the person they want to be with. They tend to see relationships as transactional and don’t want to settle for less than top payment. I had a couple university friends like that and they were very open about looking for the highest bidder, age wasn’t a consideration.
Very normal with Filipino women. I’m the only guy my wife’s age, rest of her friends are 20+ years younger than their husbands.
That’s just cultural patriarchy. Its the same system that has existed in almost every culture around the world.
The dowry mechanism has changed, but its still more or less rich old men using their wealth to get women.
I dont know about you, but I dont look at trophy wives and think “oh what a soul mates they must be”. Im not looking at Melania Trump and thinking “oh it must be love”… no, that woman is bought and paid for (trafficked, likely) and thats the modern dowry.
The vast majority of women who are in relationships with wealthier older men are by no means being forced to be with them.
They choose to date those men because they want to. They have agency, they can make their own decisions. It’s ironically quite misogynistic and infantilizing to claim that any woman who makes what you see as the wrong decision automatically must be a brainwashed slave of the man she’s with, as if men can literally hypnotize women into dating them against their will by showing them a bank statement with enough zeroes in it.
Oh come on your giving no agency to women. Women can have kinks also some are into old guys sure. The majority I imagine do it for the money. And who cares if that’s what they want let them.
It isn’t always a one way street. Many women realize that they prefer wealth to true love and willing seek out whomever has the fattest wallet as the person they want to be with. They tend to see relationships as transactional and don’t want to settle for less than top payment. I had a couple university friends like that and they were very open about looking for the highest bidder, age wasn’t a consideration.
It’s sort of smart. It’s nice to have someone who knows what they want and has already gained at least a moderate amount of security.
I suppose that’s one way to rationalize it