The host makes the turkey. The gravy comes out of cooking the turkey. Who the heck cooks the gravy separate from the turkey? Where is this person going to get the turkey drippings and stock? That makes zero sense.
Your sister seems clueless regarding how to host these events. Explain to her what we mentioned in the comments here. The host cooks the turkey and ham in their own oven so when the guests arrive it is fresh out of the oven, the gravy also comes from the juices of that same turkey she cooks in her own oven. The stuffing/dressing she would also be responsible for it because that gets jammed up into the turkey that she cooks in her own f***ing oven.
Eh stovetop stuffing is popular enough that it’s reasonable to ask someone to bring it.
That said, general rule is requests can be like “dessert” or maybe a “cheesy casserole”. If someone has a dish they’re good at for potluck it’s reasonable to request that. But if you want specific dishes you should be doing a volunteer sign up
My sister wants to host Christmas this year,
She made a list of who brings what
It goes
Then what I was assigned turkey and ham.
I think I’m in the right being annoyed that um expected to bring the meats to a hosted event I didn’t want to go to whike my wife is 8 months pregnant
The host makes the turkey. The gravy comes out of cooking the turkey. Who the heck cooks the gravy separate from the turkey? Where is this person going to get the turkey drippings and stock? That makes zero sense.
Combining turkey and ham of all things seems almost deliberate…
Yeah i think so too,
My wife said the same.
I work for myself so sometimes I think my family thinks I make lots of money.
I really don’t, honestly I would make more working for someone else, all I get is some flexibility
Your sister seems clueless regarding how to host these events. Explain to her what we mentioned in the comments here. The host cooks the turkey and ham in their own oven so when the guests arrive it is fresh out of the oven, the gravy also comes from the juices of that same turkey she cooks in her own oven. The stuffing/dressing she would also be responsible for it because that gets jammed up into the turkey that she cooks in her own f***ing oven.
Eh stovetop stuffing is popular enough that it’s reasonable to ask someone to bring it.
That said, general rule is requests can be like “dessert” or maybe a “cheesy casserole”. If someone has a dish they’re good at for potluck it’s reasonable to request that. But if you want specific dishes you should be doing a volunteer sign up