I always hear about the benefits of forgiveness, but that almost seems always like the worst choice.

I had a shitty family with mother that was manipulative which led me to being depressed for more than 4 years, while trying to forgive her and my sisters.

I finally took the decision to stop trying to forgive them and stopped talking and contacting them(since more than a month ago) and my mood and mind had never been better. I was even surprised about the speed depression left me since then.

My point is, forgiveness is a very bad choice.

Even Tit for Tat would agree with my opinion here.

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    7 days ago

    The only value I see in forgiveness is when you jettison the worthless POS out of your life and then forgive them so they no longer have hold over you.