I’m probably just an asshole nobody wants to talk to, but I can hardly even get a reply text from anyone anymore. A couple people have told me that they are just feeling burnt out/depressed/etc and don’t have even enough energy to answer a message anymore. But I’ve also had some long time friends just entirely ghost me in the last year as well with no explanation. It feels like I’m surrounded by NPCs. I’ve basically just stopped reaching out to anyone at this point. Outside of my work, literally the only people I talk to are my parents, sister, and my girlfriend. Everyone else seems dead inside. I used to have at least 10 people who I could call on a moments notice and all of those people are gone.
relatable.
i used to be more social but cut back a lot. i’m happier for it. Why? because all the socialize I was doing was overwhelmingly negative. People just endlessly complaining, whining, and refusing to do anything constructive about it. I prefer my socializing to be constructive, so I mostly do it now around volunteer work.
I really do better with a handful of quality relationships than I do with generalized socialization, so I focus on that. it’s also why i’m happier single… because every romantic relationship i had was just endless agonizing about nothing and my partners absolutely refused to do constructive things to improve their lives and saw my own improvement as a ‘threat’ and actively tried to a sabotage it.
what i don’t get is why so many people’s friendships/relationships are built on an anti-growth sentiment.