I’m probably just an asshole nobody wants to talk to, but I can hardly even get a reply text from anyone anymore. A couple people have told me that they are just feeling burnt out/depressed/etc and don’t have even enough energy to answer a message anymore. But I’ve also had some long time friends just entirely ghost me in the last year as well with no explanation. It feels like I’m surrounded by NPCs. I’ve basically just stopped reaching out to anyone at this point. Outside of my work, literally the only people I talk to are my parents, sister, and my girlfriend. Everyone else seems dead inside. I used to have at least 10 people who I could call on a moments notice and all of those people are gone.
I’m assuming your age but I think its normal when people hit early adulthood to start drifting a direction and possibly start losing contact. At least for a few people, not everyone.
That being said, there’s a lot of unnatural disconnect lately due to stress and such and I think people tend to ‘replace’ them with parasocial or low effort social media relationships instead. Basically if you’re overwhelmed you can get some socializing in on Facebook or Instagram or the Ask Lemmy section of the fediverse and it feels like communicating but its actually leaves you wanting more but with less energy than before.
There’s also a possibility they’re dealing with something they haven’t been able (or wanting) to talk about.
The things that have worked for me are low bar meetups. That is, not a lot of time or effort to join. Like hey I’m jumping on XYZ game tonight, who’s down. Or there’s a new coffee shop near your house, want to check it out, etc.