It didn’t used to be. At least for me and i don’t recall constantly seeing posts on social media about how lonely and sad everyone was or how to make friends. Now every other magazine article is about how lonely everyone is, nobody gets together, and gen Z doesn’t socialize, drink, or have sex.
Why is there such an epidemic of loneliness and why are people content to be lonely rather than socialize?
Why is so hard to connect? Because people having nothing in common anymore? I used to connect with people over books, movies, hobbies, etc. But now it feels increasingly hard to do that. Most folks I meet don’t care about any of that, they just mostly complain about their lives to you or go on political rants about how unfair the world is.
My friends and my dates no longer seem to watch films, or do much of anything other than spend time on social media? I dont’ use social media so I’m pretty ignorant of it all.
the other thing is people like go out in a group and just sit there on their phones together. it’s wild.
I get ton of feedback now that I am ‘too intense’ because I interact with people and ask them questions rather than just make vague comments at them. 10 years ago most people seemed to enjoy and be flattered that I asked them questions. now direct eye contact and question asking is ‘scary’ to people.
I also notice a big uptick in ‘experts’ as in people who want to lecture me about how stupid and ‘wrong’ I am… often about my hobbies or job… who know absolutely nothing about my hobbies or job.
When I go out, we dont sit on our phones. But im middle aged. Me and my friends talk and make bad jokes and laugh a lot. If someone would sit on their phone, they would get made fun of. :)
It just sounds like you dont have that chemistry together, the one that makes you want to laugh just seeing the other guys.
I dont know what kind of questions you ask, but last time i was out, we talked about how crazy women have become. A lot of laughs there, believe me.