Description: A five panel comic. In the first picture the main character leaves and a co-worker says “See ya, dude”. In the second panel, the protagonist is in a supermarket and the cashier says “Hey man.” In the third panel, the protagonist is on a train and someone on the phone says “Hello, sir.” In the fourth panel, the protagonist enters an apartment and says “I’ home.” and is welcomed by a woman who rushes towards her and says “THERE she is!” The two of them hug in the fifth panel, while the woman says “How’s my beautiful girlfriend doing??”
Art by Homunculus101
As someone on the other side of the same situation, I would say… well, I’d say don’t feel guilty, but I can’t really control how you feel. For me, at least, switching between gendering and mis-gendering my partner is no big deal (in terms of difficulty, of course I don’t enjoy mis-gendering her), and really it’s all worth it to see my girlfriend’s face light up when I call her my girlfriend in private. It’s not your fault that you live in a world where you can’t safely come out to everyone at the same time, so don’t worry about it :) I’m sure your wife really doesn’t mind the difficulty to keep you safe, and I’m glad you have that small bit of safety in her, if not elsewhere