People who send every single separate line or thought as a separate message annoy me to no ends. Just type everything and send it all at once! Paragraphs motherfucker, use them!
What I also hate is when people clearly want to ask me something over text but than go through the entire conversational starter rigmarole. And then even wait minutes before they reply.
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Friend: “hi”
Me: “hi how’s it going?” 5 minutes pass by
Friend: “I’m good how are you?”
Me: “I’m great, what’s up?” 4 minutes pass by
Friend: “Are you free this Sunday?”
Me: “Uh depends, you want to do something?” 6 minutes pass by
Friend: “Can you come over for lunch?”
Me: “yeah sure, what time?” 15 minutes pass by
Friend: “don’t know yet”
Like motherfucker just send it all in one text. Wasted 30 minutes for nothing
Fuck. That shit drives me crazy. You gotta keep in mind though that chat is async and not everybody is like us and attention is on or off and lives on a computer or phone.
On dating apps I use “hey” to check if they even answer. Not gonna waste brainpower on people who never respond. I would never do this to friends though.
When I’m on dating apps, I get heys. I appreciate “hey”. I’ll look at the profile and if I like what I see, I’ll respond. “Hey” is like on a marketplace posting if you message them saying “is this still available?” It’s a message for a transaction, a request for a handshake, showing no hard feelings if no response because no emotion was invested.
Absolutely do this to friends. See how many heys you can go back and forth :D
of course i carry on with my day, I’m not a moron. It’s just annoying that I get interrupted multiple times in those 30 minutes because the other person decides to wait 5 minutes between each answer.
you should direct your annoyance to the apps that send a separate notification for every single message sent in short succession. there should be a notification cooldown period
Right? The issue here is not individual messages or not, it’s the attention seeking dopamine manipulation of unchecked capitalism. Read receipts, is typing, individual notifications, lazy programming, roping the user into addiction and reliance.
In a 1v1 or chat, individual messages is fine. Wanting to only be one message per person is a forum and email relic to prevent spam, like doubleposting.
There were other messenger systems like ICQ, Pidgin, Trillian, or built in IMs on multi-user BBS systems and you’d see all mixes of speaking. Even early Usenet would get half thoughts from some people. Different people just use communication methods differently in any generation. What’s worse is when you send a message with multiple parts in any format (email or direct message) and you get a reply back only answering part of what you said. Lack of focus is a cross-generational thing.
People who send every single separate line or thought as a separate message annoy me to no ends. Just type everything and send it all at once! Paragraphs motherfucker, use them!
Seems like an older way of writing. I still find myself doing it occasionally because I wrote that way a lot when I was younger.
What I also hate is when people clearly want to ask me something over text but than go through the entire conversational starter rigmarole. And then even wait minutes before they reply.
Like
Friend: “hi”
Me: “hi how’s it going?”
5 minutes pass by
Friend: “I’m good how are you?”
Me: “I’m great, what’s up?”
4 minutes pass by
Friend: “Are you free this Sunday?”
Me: “Uh depends, you want to do something?”
6 minutes pass by
Friend: “Can you come over for lunch?”
Me: “yeah sure, what time?”
15 minutes pass by
Friend: “don’t know yet”
Like motherfucker just send it all in one text. Wasted 30 minutes for nothing
Fuck. That shit drives me crazy. You gotta keep in mind though that chat is async and not everybody is like us and attention is on or off and lives on a computer or phone.
This is why I’d rather just get a phone call. Those five-minute gaps are like 5-second pauses in speech.
Nohello.net
On dating apps I use “hey” to check if they even answer. Not gonna waste brainpower on people who never respond. I would never do this to friends though.
When I’m on dating apps, I get heys. I appreciate “hey”. I’ll look at the profile and if I like what I see, I’ll respond. “Hey” is like on a marketplace posting if you message them saying “is this still available?” It’s a message for a transaction, a request for a handshake, showing no hard feelings if no response because no emotion was invested.
Absolutely do this to friends. See how many heys you can go back and forth :D
Have you considered carrying on with your day, rather than waiting, to avoid wasting the 30 minutes?
of course i carry on with my day, I’m not a moron. It’s just annoying that I get interrupted multiple times in those 30 minutes because the other person decides to wait 5 minutes between each answer.
you should direct your annoyance to the apps that send a separate notification for every single message sent in short succession. there should be a notification cooldown period
Right? The issue here is not individual messages or not, it’s the attention seeking dopamine manipulation of unchecked capitalism. Read receipts, is typing, individual notifications, lazy programming, roping the user into addiction and reliance.
In a 1v1 or chat, individual messages is fine. Wanting to only be one message per person is a forum and email relic to prevent spam, like doubleposting.
This totally used to be a thing on Android but then they removed it 😔
We should try writing letters again from time to time.
I don’t think it’s
Such a big deal that people send texts in
Broken lines and broken phrases whenever they
Like. But at least they are sending a coherent thought.
Texting like this feels like speedy and my brain goes all
Zoom zoom. And it’s just a wonderful
Feeling.
And one more thing I just remembered
Millennial vs Gen Z.
Professionalism vs casual
I feel like this started with AOL Instant Messenger which would be X and millennials
There were other messenger systems like ICQ, Pidgin, Trillian, or built in IMs on multi-user BBS systems and you’d see all mixes of speaking. Even early Usenet would get half thoughts from some people. Different people just use communication methods differently in any generation. What’s worse is when you send a message with multiple parts in any format (email or direct message) and you get a reply back only answering part of what you said. Lack of focus is a cross-generational thing.