I disagree about it not being remotely comparable. There’s little doubt that on average it’s gonna be far worse to misgender a transperson in that way (though “i thought you were x when i first met you” isn’t really misgendering either since it’s explicitly saying they’re not that, but w/e we all know what we’re talking about here) since there’s a very high chance they have some degree of trauma associated with it.
But I think in individual cases the “i thought you were gay” can be just as bad, so I do think it’s entirely comparable. I think it’s important to also think about the worst effect it could have, and it’s such an unnecessary action that both cases are just toxic and never a good thing, so I don’t think there’s a need to rank one as worse than the other. (And ofc both can also be fine if it’s clear everyones comfortable with it, and that’s more likely in the gay case, but hopefully that’s obvious).
So of according to you, if there is a single guy on earth who gets just as upset from being called “doofus” as a black person from being called the N-Word, that in your mind makes calling someone a doofus and calling a black person the N-Word comparable ?
Did you skip over the part of it being completely unnecessary? Insults are a part of human communication, you can’t just erase them, so of course it makes sense to classify some as worse than others. It’s a fundamental part of insults even.
You literally just argued, verbatim, that because being called gay in isolated cases can be just as bad as a trans person being misgendered, that makes deliberately misgendering and calling someone gay comparable.
That was your verbatim argument. And you’ve suddenly moved the goal posts to “of course it makes sense to classify some as worse than others”
I don’t think there’s a need to rank one as worse than the other
And then literally one comment later
Of course it makes sense to classify some as worse than others
Goalposts moving more than the ball here. If you can’t be fucked to engage with my points honestly, then just say that, instead of this intellectually dishonest goal post moving you keep doing.
I disagree about it not being remotely comparable. There’s little doubt that on average it’s gonna be far worse to misgender a transperson in that way (though “i thought you were x when i first met you” isn’t really misgendering either since it’s explicitly saying they’re not that, but w/e we all know what we’re talking about here) since there’s a very high chance they have some degree of trauma associated with it.
But I think in individual cases the “i thought you were gay” can be just as bad, so I do think it’s entirely comparable. I think it’s important to also think about the worst effect it could have, and it’s such an unnecessary action that both cases are just toxic and never a good thing, so I don’t think there’s a need to rank one as worse than the other. (And ofc both can also be fine if it’s clear everyones comfortable with it, and that’s more likely in the gay case, but hopefully that’s obvious).
So of according to you, if there is a single guy on earth who gets just as upset from being called “doofus” as a black person from being called the N-Word, that in your mind makes calling someone a doofus and calling a black person the N-Word comparable ?
Did you skip over the part of it being completely unnecessary? Insults are a part of human communication, you can’t just erase them, so of course it makes sense to classify some as worse than others. It’s a fundamental part of insults even.
You literally just argued, verbatim, that because being called gay in isolated cases can be just as bad as a trans person being misgendered, that makes deliberately misgendering and calling someone gay comparable.
That was your verbatim argument. And you’ve suddenly moved the goal posts to “of course it makes sense to classify some as worse than others”
Yea ok reading comprehension is just a losy cause with you lmao
Oh and also
And then literally one comment later
Goalposts moving more than the ball here. If you can’t be fucked to engage with my points honestly, then just say that, instead of this intellectually dishonest goal post moving you keep doing.
Literally. Verbatim. Who do you think you’re kidding here dude ?