An acquaintance of yours asks why you act so strangely around her. She seems a little hurt, and is worried you hate her or something. And the truth of the matter is that you have… well it wouldn’t be right to call it a crush, but you find her very beautiful and have been worried about making a fool of yourself. And it isn’t your intention to harass her or pursue her in any way, you’re not even looking for a relationship or anything right now, you’re just nervous around her for basically no reason, and she’s noticed and she wants to know if she’s done something to offend you.
What on earth is the correct thing to say?
We choose how we act, but we don’t choose how we feel at certain times. If we get nervous, scared, or embarrassed, for example, willpower alone won’t change that.
Of course there are various ways of adjusting how we react or display emotions, so all hope is not lost. Those take time and practice.
yeah we do get to choose that. willpower is controlling your feelings and make yourself feel differently.
i don’t know what world where you live in that feelings are uncontrollable. I have suffered from PTSD and other powerful stuff… but I simple choose to not allow my feelings to govern me. When I am feeling that way I go ‘why am i feeling this way? it’s stupid, just stop it’ and a few minutes later I’m fine.
it’s not any different than being on a diet. you choose what to eat. pretending like you have no choice in overeatting or eating poorly is just an excuse to justify the poor choices rather than deal with the difficulty of changing your habits.