• Jo Miran@lemmy.mlM
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    9 hours ago

    Actual conversation I had regarding my sexuality:

    Femal Aquaintance- “You can’t be bi, you’re married! Wait…do you cheat on -=wife=-?!?”

    Me - “Of course I can, and no I don’t cheat.”

    Female Aquaintance - “But you’re married! Doesn’t -=wife=- have a problem with it?”

    Me - “No. She’s bi too.”

    Female Aquaintance -“But she’s married!!!”

    Two weeks later she got drunk and wanted a threesome, then got annoyed that we turned her down. I have no idea why people immediately assume that bi means “will fuck anyone that asks”.

    • JillyB@beehaw.org
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      7 hours ago

      My mom met a non-binary friend of mine and their girlfriend. My NB friend comes across as a masculine muscular bro dude but their NB and pan. I mentioned to my mom later that they were NB and she was like “but he has a girlfriend…?” I had to walk her through “you’ve heard of men being attracted to women, and women being attracted to women. Well Zack is neither and is attracted to women.” In her mind, gender and sexuality were like, part of the same thing. Which I guess they are but not the way she thought.

      • EldritchFemininity@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        45 minutes ago

        I had to teach the difference between the two to my therapist the first time I talked about being trans.

        The upside to that whole thing being that they ended up using my knowledge as a launching point to learn what the latest research has to say about gender, sexuality, and trans people, and then several years later thanked me because my conversations on the subject with them went on to help them with other patients that they had.

      • vaionko@sopuli.xyz
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        5 hours ago

        Gender and sexuality have been a blur for a long time. It’s not long ago that transgenderism was considered a sexuality

    • Icytrees@sh.itjust.works
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      7 hours ago

      It really opens up the world of bored white middle class couple threesomes, though. They always pay for drinks and give fantastic Christmas gifts.