Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today’s overwhelming and constant information and notification overload? Or do you find it offensive and unfriendly?
Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?
For this post let’s assume the people involved are or were in the past friends, and ghosting is leaving someone on “read” for more than 2 days.
Whenever I hear ghosted what I actually see is they were too afraid to have a conversation. They think it hurts the person’s feelings less. It doesn’t. If anything it leaves them angry and confused.
ghosting is a lot better than having someone show up at your door pounding on it at 11pm screaming how you can’t break up with them.
happened to me more than once, so I ghost now. It’s safer and less dramatic for everyone involved. nobody i ever ghosted has harassed, threatened, or assaulted me. women I’ve respectfully broke up with have a tendancy to do one or more of those things. hell I’ve had situations where she was breaking up with me… and got violent because I wasn’t upset enough for her and that upset her… how dare I take her dumping me well!
and as a man, woman on man violence/harassment has zero social consequence. if anything if i called the cops because a woman was stalking/assaulting me, I’d get arrested.
hurting someone else’s feelings is a lot better than someone threatening violence at me for breaking up with them.