Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today’s overwhelming and constant information and notification overload? Or do you find it offensive and unfriendly?
Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?
For this post let’s assume the people involved are or were in the past friends, and ghosting is leaving someone on “read” for more than 2 days.
I used to talk to this girl on some random app in the early days of social media. We became good friends and would facetime every other day and got to know each other pretty well. This went on for probably about 2 years. She even began to have feelings for me.
At some point, I decided to completely ghost her. The truth is I got this idea in my head that talking to girls on the internet was sad and desperate. But I didn’t want to tell her the truth.
She tried calling me and texting me but I never replied. Even about 6 months later she tried calling me out of the blue, but again I ignored the call.
To this day she still doesn’t know why I just disappeared on her. It was a horrible thing to do and I’m not proud of it. Ghosting is almost always cruel unless you have a very good reason for it.
I feel bad for her :(
So do I, it was a real asshole thing to do.
Have you tried to make it right?
The thought has crossed my mind many times, but I think that ship has long sailed. It was about 12 years ago and even if I was able to contact her, I can’t imagine she’d be too keen on talking to me.
You’re wrong, and adults usually enjoy little moments like that from the past. You should fix this
I have no idea how I’d even contact her.
maybe OP couldn’t because OP actually died and is a literal ghost