Thank you. Didn’t expect such an elaborate answer.

You’re right. What makes it a little difficult is that this uphill battle is often hidden, e.g. from your employer. So you try to work the same as your colleagues but unless they’re also hidden ADHD people it doesn’t work. So it’s basically an entirely different game, they play “do the job” and you play “impersonate someone doing the job”.

Since this happens in hiding there is nobody giving you feedback on how you’re doing except for yourself. You get feedback for “the job” but not for what you’re actually doing…