I don’t need advice, I would appreciate if you just listened or provided your opinion but not telling me what to do or how to think, please.

I don’t wanna focus too hard on labels or what others think, but I still do wonder for not just me, but for people like me.

I already know stuff like to break the bad habit of reducing myself to a label, which I am trying to do.

That’s why, although there are many things that apply to me, like “autistic”, “trans”, “demiboy”, etc. I will not go around saying these words to describe me all the time.

But anyway, I ranted about this yesterday and thought people wouldn’t respond well for some reason, but the first thing I saw when I searched up “demiboy” was a person asking what a demiboy is.

The comments were full of people saying stuff like demiboys who are “assigned female at birth” are tomboys or just women who want to feel special.

I just wonder why people don’t realize that trans men and nonbinary and anything in between is a valid, real thing and not just people who want to feel special.

There is also something I saw calling a gay trans man “hetero” on TikTok, when a gay trans man and a hetero woman are definitely different, as are lesbians and straight trans men, etc.

And people who are non-binary are valid, real, and genuinely don’t want to feel special, but just don’t feel strictly like male or female.

You can put your experiences in the comments, by the way.

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    11 days ago

    I would appreciate if you just listened or provided your opinion but not telling me what to do or how to think, please.

    Done.

    People as a whole really like to get caught up in labels for things because it helps them categorize. It’s hardwired into our pattern seeking behavior to try and fit everything into neat little boxes. However sexuality and gender as a whole are pretty messy in practice and not everything fits neatly into those boxes. When someone refers to themselves or others with a label like “trans” all that means is that they are not cis. The exact specifics are unknown until you talk to them more.