I feel so much more comfortable and authentic being heavily feminine. If I were to drop absolutely every shred of learned masculinity, it would be jarring to people who know me. I’m balancing shedding my made–up masculine past with staying at least somewhat recognisable as the person they first met. I don’t know how necessary this is, but that’s the mental gymnastics I’m dealing with right now.
• Break the masculine habits of the past
• Be feminine enough for the people who might think you’re not “making an effort”
• Don’t be so feminine that people will think you’re playing a character
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I feel so much more comfortable and authentic being heavily feminine. If I were to drop absolutely every shred of learned masculinity, it would be jarring to people who know me. I’m balancing shedding my made–up masculine past with staying at least somewhat recognisable as the person they first met. I don’t know how necessary this is, but that’s the mental gymnastics I’m dealing with right now.
• Break the masculine habits of the past
• Be feminine enough for the people who might think you’re not “making an effort”
• Don’t be so feminine that people will think you’re playing a character