I’m unlovable because I am kind of a dick.
Negativity bias runs rampid in this community.
It’s like there is toxic positivity, and there is just never accepting a complement.
That and the fact that I slept with your mom.
With your Magnum Dong, Dr. Mantis Toboggon?
I am ready to plow 🫠
It’s not a compliment if it isn’t personal. It’s a platitude.
Or a platitude
In my experience (and from basic common sense and obvious observations of the world) this is not true.
People love you when you provide some kind of benefit to them, and can expect you to continue providing these benefits. For example, your parents probably love you for a lot of reasons - but the one that started them all was because you are carrying their genetic code into the future. I can guarentee you that no one would love babies - who are loud, selfish assholes who smell bad - if this were not the case. People might also love you because you were emotionally supportive in the past, or because you always offer to help them with hard tasks, or because you make funny jokes when drinking together. People might even love you simply because you consistently show up, and thereby validate their worth with your simple presence. That’s why love exists - it is a biological signal to your brain saying “spend time with this person and do nice things for them so that they’ll keep doing nice things for you.”
