Many fall in the face of chaos, but not this one, not today

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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • the spacecraft doesn’t immediately lose all the celestial relative velocity just by going into space, it’s still moving extremely fast:

    • with the sun and earth through the galaxy
    • with the Earth around the sun
    • and is still affected by Earth’s gravity, just now it’s able to counter Earth’s pull with a faster motion pulling it outward, so it balances out to appear weightless

    Just by going into orbit and counterbalancing the Earth’s gravity with rotational velocity doesn’t mean it’s not still moving extremely fast relative to the stars




  • You are grieving the loss of your old life. The freedom, the lack of responsibility. This is normal and healthy. Taking time to be sad and properly mourning is important.

    Maybe it helps to write about your travels, to fully remember the good and the bad of it.

    Take time to process that sadness and sit in it. Recognizing this will help you grieve. This could take months, maybe longer! Maybe you are also a bit resentful that you didn’t live in the moment more then, and that you tried to grow up too fast.

    Then you’ll be able to assess your life right now and decide if it’s the life you want or if you need a change. And being honest with your wife will go a long way, so she understands that you’re sad and mourning a life you used to live, even if you prefer this life.

    It’s normal to feel depressed while grieving.

    I’ve lived a lot of different lives, traveled and adventured with nothing a lot of different ways. Sometimes I look back at what I had and have strong regrets. A few years ago they got so strong I decided to blow my life up and go for a big backpacking trip with just enough work to sustain it indefinitely.

    It was really fun, but it was a new kind of hard. After about six months I realized I missed deep connections with friends. I missed staying in one place, in building a life with folks I cared about around me - a real community. I missed hosting backyard BBQ parties, playing games with folks, spending time with each other, supporting each other through life’s challenges.

    At the end of the day, the adventuring was great but it wasn’t enough, it was fun, but too souless to continue. The new friends every day, the new scenery, it was a grand adventure, but adventure isn’t enough. I need a deep community.

    So I picked a place to settle down and started building that life. Today I’ve got more neighbors as friends than I can possibly spend time with. I’m building deeper connections with people I care about. This was the missing piece.

    And sometimes I look out window and feel regrets. I see the moon and want to be out in the woods again. I want to be done with working so many hours to afford this life. But I remember being so lonely I could hear my heart knocking around in my chest, of meeting people every day I’d never get to see again. And I focus on being grateful for what I have. The gratitude goes a long way to making me feel better. I have possibly the best life I could, and part of that means trade-offs, of all the other lives that have to die so this one can live. I grieve those other lost lives, but then celebrate this one with things that make me happy and grateful.

    I hope my rambling helps. As you reflect I hope you find out what kind of life you want, and at least get a chance to feel the sadness and regret, and know it’s possible to regret and move forward. It’s possible to grieve an old life and still be grateful for the one you have.

    And maybe, yeah, at the end of that you need to blow it all up and go do something else. I wish you the best. Feel free to write me if you want to chat more about this




  • I use Kagi chat all the time for random shit:

    • scheming about food forest ideas
    • learning about Linux
    • helping me get inspired to write DnD campaigns
    • journaling about stressful shit and getting encouragement to relax and breathe through it
    • inspirations for cool projects to do

    it’s like a great resource to just see like an average of what people would say in that situation. I think of it like a faster more focused reddit thread full of good and bad ideas, and I sort through them



  • This is exactly why I’ve been on such a kick to plant perennials in my yard! There’s a resilience to be had, even if psychological.

    The other day I noticed my favorite dark chocolate bars are nearly $8 each, this time last year they were $3! I am obviously distressed to find I can only afford half as many bars as before, but it’s comforting to know I’ll be getting a lot more treats of grapes, kiwi, asparagus, strawberries, elderberries, goji berries, and mulberries. Sure they aren’t chocolate, but they are a fun sweet treat anyway, and if I miss the sharpness of chocolate I’ll make some into tart jam or kombucha.

    Rather than see the chocolate prices and despair, I’d rather take comfort in adding more to my little food forest, and then I’ll have more to share with my friends!



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    What baffles me is how truly compatible science and religious faith could be, only in that religion attempts to provide answers that science cannot. But rather than pushing hard to only provide those answers, and reading the texts in the context of the time, these religious leaders get unbelievably bent out of shape and decide to die on hills that are just trivially and demonstrably false.

    Like evolution, the age of the earth, heck a few years ago even a heliocentric solar system. It does not matter at all if this is a heliocentric solar system, and yet folks were happy to die on that hill (even killing others who just point out the truth) turning away everyone who won’t submit. That’s what finally got me, the constant claims to seek truth, and yet inevitably ignoring it completely when it slaps you in the face.

    It’s so close-minded and completely misses the point. If all they did was say “here’s some moral teachings on how to be better to each other” at least I could get on board with that. But no, it’s somehow required to buy into all the false teachings too.

    It feels like a dead sea effect, where the only people left are those who comply when they see red plate and the leaders tell them to call it blue. To me that’s not about seeking truth or trying to live a more moral life, but rather about control and power.


  • Absolutely agree. I know much more about operating systems and software that the average person, and I’ve only been able to handle a number of Bazzite issues with Kagi Assistant. Trying to find how to fix something on forums and regular search is extremely time intensive.

    Of course keep in mind that if you’re messing around with your OS you might just screw something up and have to reinstall, but so far I’ve not had anything even close to that. Bazzite seems to be pretty hard to break.

    Really for me, Linux only became fun once I started using chat tools to help me learn how to make it do everything I wanted. And I’ve been using Linux off and on for work and at home for twenty years. It’s just sometimes really arcane, and the differences between opensuse, Ubuntu, fedora, and mint made it feel like I never could learn how to fix things.

    Sometimes things are harder than I want or just aren’t working right out of the box. But then sometimes I’m able to do things that are actually impossible on other operating systems. So it’s really a trade-off. Also it’s getting better every single day. There was an issue I had last month with a controller, I messed around for 30 minutes but couldn’t get it to work. I tried it last week and it just worked. So don’t lose hope entirely.