All my life I’ve been led to believe that unattractive men will treat you better or are more genuine. Mainly movies like The Hunchback of Notre-Dame and many others where they depict a pretty girl with an unattractive male partner/protagonist where she falls in love with him because of the way he treats her.
Who would have said life is not like in movies? But for some reason we will still have this stereotype in mind.
The truth is I’ve been treated worse by guys who were unattractive in comparison to guys who are attractive. Specially when they make you feel bad about yourself which never happened to me with an attractive guy. They never made me feel unattractive or lesser than them.
Nerdy guys have been the worst in my experience, no flowers, no gentleman behavior or trying to be interested in your interests. Many awkward silences and only interacting with you for sex.
This is just a tendency, not a rule. Just never believe that someone’s appearance is related to their personality (even if it’s in a positive way).
The myth that nerds are all wonderful people who are mis understood is just that, a myth.
I have known many nerds who are total assholes and treat people like shit. Is that because of how they were treated is how they learned to treat others? maybe. Thing is it doesn’t matter why someone is an asshole.
The other side of this is that when it comes to someone treating you right or treating you better is really almost all about how you define that.