All my life I’ve been led to believe that unattractive men will treat you better or are more genuine. Mainly movies like The Hunchback of Notre-Dame and many others where they depict a pretty girl with an unattractive male partner/protagonist where she falls in love with him because of the way he treats her.
Who would have said life is not like in movies? But for some reason we will still have this stereotype in mind.
The truth is I’ve been treated worse by guys who were unattractive in comparison to guys who are attractive. Specially when they make you feel bad about yourself which never happened to me with an attractive guy. They never made me feel unattractive or lesser than them.
Nerdy guys have been the worst in my experience, no flowers, no gentleman behavior or trying to be interested in your interests. Many awkward silences and only interacting with you for sex.
This is just a tendency, not a rule. Just never believe that someone’s appearance is related to their personality (even if it’s in a positive way).
Attractiveness is a boon (among other things, and even then it’s kinda low on the list, at least for guys), and the less you have of it the worse your life will be (everything else being equal, ofc) and the more you have to deal with emotionally, consequently. I don’t condone lashing out or just being an immature prick in a “hurt people hurt people” kinda way, but I understand it. 🤷