Is it clear?

  • kingofras@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    Sometimes even yes means no. Plenty of women still have an ‘I have to please’ chip on their shoulder and haven’t fully fleshed out their own boundaries.

    The golden rule is, if there’s too much confusion in the yes/no department, you’re misaligned and it’s probably healthiest to move on.

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        5 days ago

        Oh sorry. Someone gendered me for me apparently.

        I understand what you’re trying to do. Seeing how you’re actively trying to keep a part of the userbase out, perhaps you can reduce the mod load by having a private community for this. Better yet would be a c/womenstuffopen community that automatically mirrors posts from the private community into open discussion for all (including those who don’t wish to be publicly gendered).

        Feel free to delete all my stuff and ban me too (no offence taken) as I will probably respond to something else again if it pops up in my feed and I find it interesting.

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      5 days ago

      Although I get your point, the other side of the coin is that plenty of guys are really bad at picking up on emotional cues. So unless you actually say no, not all guys will understand yes is actually no.