• Emily (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    19 days ago

    When I came out after boymoding what I thought was successfully no one was surprised, I was so obvious that they had in fact thought I was transitioning in the other direction 🤦‍♀️

    • hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      19 days ago

      I failed so hard there were multiple people in my extended friend group who didn’t realize I hadn’t actually started transitioning. Mind you, I hadn’t even admitted to myself that I was trans at that point and was repressing it super hard. Mfers saw me as a woman before I did 🥲

  • Pretty much me lately at work. Pretty much just trying to coast off of people either oblivious to the changes or being to worried about being impolite to say anything about it. Honestly curious how many are in each camp. Everyone seems to he/him/sir me without hesitation except the person who I’m pretty sure is a chaser…

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    18 days ago

    A bit ago I shared a pic of me trying to boymode with frens and they said things like “i don’t really think you can boymode even if you wanted to” >W< >W< >W<

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    18 days ago

    I’m jealous :/ I get misgendered by strangers all the time although I’ve started transitioning over 5 years ago :'(

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      16 days ago

      Sometimes when you don’t think you can pass, it might feel safer to present male or ambiguous. Unfortunately, it’s also common for those transfems to underestimate how feminine they still are and fail to pass as male. For example, I tried to boymode when traveling through a conservative state, yet still “malefailed” because I had fully transitioned to using a feminine voice and couldn’t revert it on the fly. Looking androgynous enough to have family friends think I was always a girl for years didn’t help either.