and how do you deflect prying questions about you and limit these rituals to 2 minutes instead of wasting 30 minutes?
asking as somebody who, if not on the spectrum, is socially awkward, likes solitude, boundaries and to be left alone (to do the job)
I still believe none of your answers is going to help me because neurotypical solutions don’t work for me but I have nothing to lose with this question.
once a week i grabbed coffee for the (it should be noted, small, so it wasn’t a huge expense) office i worked in. i found out what kind of drinks they liked and they noticed that i was regularly grabbing it. if i missed a week, they knew i was struggling and someone did something nice for me. best place i ever worked, nowhere else has had that kind of community. boss was a cheapskate, but y’know.
as far as deflecting private questions, i am an absurdist so if they ask something that’s over the line i would give an answer that could not possibly be true. back when i was (painfully and obviously) single, if they’d ask something weird, the answer would start with “well the wife and i…” whether that works for you or not, it’s up to you but i had a happy 15 years there.