I was 27 when i did the deed for the first time. It was very overrated. I’m almost 40 now. Ive been married, tried a few partners, it just didn’t matter. But before 27 I thought I must be missing out and got sad over it. Nah man it’s really nbd.
It’s society putting sex on pedestal. I agree when I did the deed for the first time, I feel it is overrated. Sorry if i might slight someone here, but from my observation, it is kind of the shallower folks who put too much value on sex.
Yep. Spent 5 years feeling social pressure to have sex then when I did have it at 20 it wasn’t as enjoyable. The only thing I got out of it was guilt for caring so much about something that mattered so little; regret for rushing into something i didn’t really want; and relief for not having the bare the social burden anymore.
i would say to not do it until you’re ready, and don’t expect it to be the best thing ever, because everyone has a different experience and you may or may not enjoy it.
As a multicultural person, depends what society you’re in. Western culture is hedonistic and obsessed with sex, while the more conservative non-Western cultures are prude and ascetic. Either way, both cultures put sex on pedestal. When one loses their virginity doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Humans are weird creatures for having this attitude on sex.
It’s fundamentally different for humanity. A bug has sex, shits out a thousand eggs, and then dies by flying into a rock moving at speed. A monkey cares for its young for a year. Gorillas are considered crazy for having a three year long rearing process. And then there are humans with fucking 12 years, a sixth of your life at absolute minimum for our children to avoid dying by just existing in society. Preganancy historically, and presently, killing leagues of women certainly doesn’t dissuade the careful choice. Sex has only very recently, broadly speaking, become a safe diversion, and human culture is slow to adapt.
Women are also generally able to get pregnant year-round, which is unusual in the animal kingdom. And AFAIK there are only a couple of species where the women can actually have a good orgasm, though obviously that’s kind of difficult to test.
Yeah, to serve as a counter example, I didn’t have sex until 24, it was alright, nothing amazing, but I felt good about it overall. Then that relationship fell apart because I had no idea how to relationship and ended up pretty needy and I didn’t have sex again until 3 years later. Then it was like the floodgates opened, had a casual relationship that I also wasn’t really ready for but learned a lot about myself during, and then fooled around with a swinger couple for a little while before ending up in my own open relationship and had a ton of fun with that.
Then, after that relationship ended, I had a bit of a manwhore phase, and from that, my guess is that these guys lowered their standards to get laid because those were the times when I’d walk away from a sexual experience not feeling great about it. The sex itself would be fine, but that post-nut clarity would hit hard and I’d just want to get away and be alone. Contrast that to when I was actually attracted to my partner, when I’d be happy to just spend more time with them, cuddling or going for another round, or even just existing in the same space as them.
I was 27 when i did the deed for the first time. It was very overrated. I’m almost 40 now. Ive been married, tried a few partners, it just didn’t matter. But before 27 I thought I must be missing out and got sad over it. Nah man it’s really nbd.
It’s society putting sex on pedestal. I agree when I did the deed for the first time, I feel it is overrated. Sorry if i might slight someone here, but from my observation, it is kind of the shallower folks who put too much value on sex.
It’s not a big deal, except that now you know it’s not a big deal. When people are hung up about it, releasing that can be a help.
It’s because you had sex with your popo instead of with your peepee
makes sense for someone from @lemmynsfw.com to say that lol
Ty, almost forgot where we were
Yep. Spent 5 years feeling social pressure to have sex then when I did have it at 20 it wasn’t as enjoyable. The only thing I got out of it was guilt for caring so much about something that mattered so little; regret for rushing into something i didn’t really want; and relief for not having the bare the social burden anymore.
Protect your virginity lol.
i wouldn’t say “protect your virginity”.
i would say to not do it until you’re ready, and don’t expect it to be the best thing ever, because everyone has a different experience and you may or may not enjoy it.
As a multicultural person, depends what society you’re in. Western culture is hedonistic and obsessed with sex, while the more conservative non-Western cultures are prude and ascetic. Either way, both cultures put sex on pedestal. When one loses their virginity doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Humans are weird creatures for having this attitude on sex.
It’s fundamentally different for humanity. A bug has sex, shits out a thousand eggs, and then dies by flying into a rock moving at speed. A monkey cares for its young for a year. Gorillas are considered crazy for having a three year long rearing process. And then there are humans with fucking 12 years, a sixth of your life at absolute minimum for our children to avoid dying by just existing in society. Preganancy historically, and presently, killing leagues of women certainly doesn’t dissuade the careful choice. Sex has only very recently, broadly speaking, become a safe diversion, and human culture is slow to adapt.
Women are also generally able to get pregnant year-round, which is unusual in the animal kingdom. And AFAIK there are only a couple of species where the women can actually have a good orgasm, though obviously that’s kind of difficult to test.
I hope you realize you are an outlier in this respect
Yeah, to serve as a counter example, I didn’t have sex until 24, it was alright, nothing amazing, but I felt good about it overall. Then that relationship fell apart because I had no idea how to relationship and ended up pretty needy and I didn’t have sex again until 3 years later. Then it was like the floodgates opened, had a casual relationship that I also wasn’t really ready for but learned a lot about myself during, and then fooled around with a swinger couple for a little while before ending up in my own open relationship and had a ton of fun with that.
Then, after that relationship ended, I had a bit of a manwhore phase, and from that, my guess is that these guys lowered their standards to get laid because those were the times when I’d walk away from a sexual experience not feeling great about it. The sex itself would be fine, but that post-nut clarity would hit hard and I’d just want to get away and be alone. Contrast that to when I was actually attracted to my partner, when I’d be happy to just spend more time with them, cuddling or going for another round, or even just existing in the same space as them.
Yeah, my first time was awkward, and embarrassing. However, the over-all take away was good.
while you’re at it, also protect your milk teeth. do stand in the way of progress.