Asking because I just sat through a family feud within earshot at a local coffee joint. Parents giving advice to son, who looked 30ish, all quite civil, full of the ‘can I speak for a minute’, ‘your minute is up’ and so on, with some ‘when we were your age’ and ‘you must/ will learn’ etc. Mum ended with ‘i don’t have to justify anything to you’.

My dad stopped once I got out of high school, but mum seems to chime in from time to time. I’m well into my middle age.

When should parents stop parenting and just let the kid fail/ thrive on their own? I just feel sometimes the parents are the problem, regardless of good intentions.

  • JeeBaiChow@lemmy.worldOP
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    6 hours ago

    Yes, it takes maturity to understand the difference between hearing it out and obedience to the advice given. We mirror our life experiences to our kids, so I guess one thing I’m cognizant of is whether I’m repeating what I felt was not right to the next generation.