The Venn diagram between people who go like “please don’t say ‘I hate men’, it hurts men too” and people who think that a 12 year old Palestinian kid deserved to die for not distancing themselves from Hamas enough before being drone striked is a solid circle.
Well no. I wouldn’t put it like that but I think that statement is sexist, but obviously don’t agree with the Palestinian kid one. So hello from outside the circle.
Of course the point is technically correct. Men are being hurt by the patriarchy in many diverse ways, in the same way that anti-Black racism hurts white people (for example, through loss of bargaining power in segregated workplaces), and transphobia hurts cis people (through vilifying all kinds of gender nonconforming expressions or even simply being a woman born with masculine looking physiology).
Not sure about the race example but yes exactly, thank you.
But articles like these are literally not written to help the men affected by it, they are written to police victims’ language and turn around the blame for sexism on women once again.
This is your framing from your own personal perspective. You were originally responding to someone who surely isn’t attempting to blame sexism on women. I’m sure you can see how a statement like “men are trash” is sexist. Just like feminists are correct to call out anyone saying “women are trash,” men are totally within their rights to call this out and discuss how sexism in society affects them too. This post is the perfect example, men need to be able to step outside of this context where they are treated like monsters (or rapists, as you said) or like their needs are less important. Things would be better for everyone if men had the emotional support offered to women. Even the bad ones might not be so bad if they felt less devalued and disposable.
I’m sorry if you’ve been traumatized and I totally see how having your words scrutinised like this is annoying as shit if you’re just looking to vent, but the whole point is that nobody should have to experience sexism. And that includes men. Treat others how you want to be treated and all that.
I think that statement is sexist
Technically if interpreted as written, it would be, yeah. But we have this great thing called nuance, which tells us that if someone suffers their entire life from trauma, then policing their language about their trauma is not something that we do.
If a Polish kid during World War 2 decided to hate Germans, technically it’d be a bigoted statement, but who would fault them? Who would make it a point to attack this kid for being xenophobic given his history? Who would seriously die on that hill?
I’m sure you can see how a statement like “men are trash” is sexist.
It is only if you read it literally, which anyone with a brain does not, because we live under patriarchy, and any such statement directed at men from a clearly traumatized minority obviously means those espousing the toxic traits of masculinity that society marks as essential for manhood. “Men” clearly means “typical men”.
Just like feminists are correct to call out anyone saying “women are trash,” men are totally within their rights to call this out
The difference is that we live under patriarchy. Someone saying “women are trash” is not venting about their trauma about women, they are kicking down from a position of privilege unto a minority. People saying “men are trash”, unless they’re really bonkers, obviously mean the constructed, toxic definition of “men” as applied in “real men” or “manliness”.
Even the bad ones might not be so bad if they felt less devalued and disposable.
Which is not women’s fault, but again, men’s. It’s an internal issue between each other. They literally beat each other up, scream, yell, compete, make everything into a violent contest. Attack men if you want to combat that behavior, because it’s only men who perpetuate it.
I’m sorry if you’ve been traumatized and I totally see how having your words scrutinised like this is annoying as shit if you’re just looking to vent, but the whole point is that nobody should have to experience sexism. And that includes men. Treat others how you want to be treated and all that.
I am just simply sick and tired of the vast majority of guys consistently making life hell for everyone else on the planet every single day, including even each other, and then suddenly we are supposed to care for their feefees. I do not. Let them solve it with their alpha lifestyle and superior intellect. I do not care a single inch whether a rapist feels unfairly treated.
Which is not women’s fault, but again, men’s. It’s an internal issue between each other. They literally beat each other up, scream, yell, compete, make everything into a violent contest. Attack men if you want to combat that behavior, because it’s only men who perpetuate it.
And sexist.
So I’m not interested in talking anymore. Good luck with all this hate.
You are the kind of person to call MLK a racist for being critical of white people’s complicity in segregation.
Oppressors’ crocodile tears. History will judge you.
Also no, I’m not. Probably won’t find many brown people that are. Of course you don’t care about what I think because 1) I am a man and 2) you already made up your mind what type of person I am and are completely unwilling to accept that you are wrong
The present had been judging a lot of righteous people. Alan Turing was killed for being gay. History absolved him.
I am also a guy, by the way, if you care…
Of course it doesn’t, because it’s easy to be “colorblind” if you are on the top of the ladder anyway and literally don’t need to think about gender at all, because it simply never impacts you in any meaningful way.
It’s a nice life on top of the ivory tower, judging the rabble.
Well no. I wouldn’t put it like that but I think that statement is sexist, but obviously don’t agree with the Palestinian kid one. So hello from outside the circle.
Not sure about the race example but yes exactly, thank you.
This is your framing from your own personal perspective. You were originally responding to someone who surely isn’t attempting to blame sexism on women. I’m sure you can see how a statement like “men are trash” is sexist. Just like feminists are correct to call out anyone saying “women are trash,” men are totally within their rights to call this out and discuss how sexism in society affects them too. This post is the perfect example, men need to be able to step outside of this context where they are treated like monsters (or rapists, as you said) or like their needs are less important. Things would be better for everyone if men had the emotional support offered to women. Even the bad ones might not be so bad if they felt less devalued and disposable.
I’m sorry if you’ve been traumatized and I totally see how having your words scrutinised like this is annoying as shit if you’re just looking to vent, but the whole point is that nobody should have to experience sexism. And that includes men. Treat others how you want to be treated and all that.
Ok well I think you’re wrong.
And sexist.
So I’m not interested in talking anymore. Good luck with all this hate.
You are the kind of person to call MLK a racist for being critical of white people’s complicity in segregation. Oppressors’ crocodile tears. History will judge you.
The present is judging you.
Also no, I’m not. Probably won’t find many brown people that are. Of course you don’t care about what I think because 1) I am a man and 2) you already made up your mind what type of person I am and are completely unwilling to accept that you are wrong
The present had been judging a lot of righteous people. Alan Turing was killed for being gay. History absolved him. I am also a guy, by the way, if you care…
Doesn’t make any difference to me.
Edit: so wait, are you trash? Are you a rapist?
Of course it doesn’t, because it’s easy to be “colorblind” if you are on the top of the ladder anyway and literally don’t need to think about gender at all, because it simply never impacts you in any meaningful way.
It’s a nice life on top of the ivory tower, judging the rabble.