Yes, this is a serious question. I still go on reddit and often see on the r/bigboobsproblem subreddit, women complaining about the attention they receive from their chest.

Granted, I do understand where they’re coming from, if you just generally as a person don’t want to be oogeled at like a slice of meat, I mean, I get that. That is infact uncomfortable.

I love my chest size, they make me feel feminine and beautiful and I appreciate and enjoy the attention they bring me. Because here’s the thing, we’re not gunna be young forever, at some point, we’ll be older, and not attractive anymore.

With that, I kinda don’t understand why some women don’t like idk… being beautiful or desired? Like it makes me feel good and boosts my self-esteem.

Anyway, ppl are allowed to feel any way they want. Especially when it comes to their body. I just personally don’t get why a person wouldn’t want the attention.

Im not talking about harassment here, there’s a big difference and clearly there’s a line. But any way, what do you think?

  • LadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
    11·
    6 days ago

    I’m top heavy and when i was young my boobs were amazing, absolutely gorgeous. And I LOVED it. I turned heads, and I really flaunted them whenever I could. I miss those days!

  • recursive_recursion@piefed.caEnglish
    30·
    7 days ago

    Why Do I Look Like…This? The SexyCyborg Origin Story

    Fuck what other people think about you and your desires about your own body.

    You are your own person and as long as you aren’t encroaching on other’s freedom and rights, they shouldn’t either is my philosophy.

    If you like having big boobs then hell yeah!🙌
    If you don’t then still hell yeah!🙌

    and to go back and answer your question, people’s intents are probably why certain types of gazes are favored and disliked. There’s a good reason why the “male gaze” is viewed unfavorably to say the least.

    Being seen and loved by the people you care about most tends to feel great!

    Glares or stares from strangers often feels alienating and intimidating to pervasive and threatening.

    • FoxyFerengi@startrek.website
      9·
      7 days ago

      Thank you for sharing that video. I’ve thought she was empowering herself for a really long time, and thought it was brave that she has been so fearless in being herself, but never heard the origin story

      • ZDL@lazysoci.al
        4·
        6 days ago

        Naomi Wu is the main reason I have a very jaundiced view of American feminism these days. I mean she’s an open lesbian, yet the catty comments from American feminists she kept getting about how she was “obviously” just “looking for male attention” never stopped. Ever.

        • FoxyFerengi@startrek.website
          2·
          6 days ago

          I’m with you on that. My BFF’s family is from HK, that’s why I have thought she was so brave for being out and proud while maintaining such a high profile presence online and at the events where she showed off her creations. She’s wicked smart, confident and hot, so a lot if the vitriol seems like envy to me.

          I’m ace, and I’ve felt that same “this is for me, not men” thing she said. That part really resonated with me, I wish I had her reaction of embracing her ideal body and loving herself for who she is

  • Of the Air (cele/celes)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    5·
    5 days ago

    Because here’s the thing, we’re not gunna be young forever, at some point, we’ll be older, and not attractive anymore.

    This genuinely made us sad, that people etc think they can’t or won’t be attractive when older.

  • Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.works
    3·
    5 days ago

    With that, I kinda don’t understand why some women don’t like idk… being beautiful or desired?

    Oh, I blame men.

    With a certain subset of men, you can either be a woman they find hot, or a woman they take seriously, but not both.

    I takes a LOT of confidence and energy to deal with that, and before I hit my 30s, it was a serious problem for me to get taken seriously if I did the slightest thing about my looks. I work as a safety consultant, and that means I deal with lots of men in construction and industry, and it was much more convenient to wear the baggy coat and not wear makeup than it was to look good and then try to convince them there was something inside my head too.

    So, we dress down, because it makes it easier to deal with the assholes.

    Nowadays, my fucks have run out, and the space they used to occupy has been filled with confidence and sass. Even my watertight coveralls accentuate my figure!

  • Greercase@lemmus.orgEnglish
    13·
    7 days ago

    It seems like you answered your own question for the most part. Generally when people complain about getting attention for their features, breast or otherwise, they’re likely talking about attention that’s negative or makes them uncomfortable. There will always be outliers, but I don’t think people are regularly complaining about the fact they have a partner who respects them as a person and respects their entire body who just happens to find their breasts attractive. You seem to acknowledge that being viewed exclusively sexually by strangers can be uncomfortable, so I’m not sure really what else there is to it. You can feel however you like about your body and the way people look at it, but I always encourage doing the work to investigate those feelings and make sure they are truly yours and there for the right reasons. Sometimes it’s nice to feel attractive, but it’s important not to need external validation to know your worth. As long as you’re comfortable and not in danger, you do you.