• captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    One ex of mine got married at 17, another at 18 (Appalachian milfs and I have a thing for each other). Neither decision was good, and people may think it’s only a year, but the difference is drastic. At 18 you’re legally an adult, but at 17 you aren’t. At 17 you lack rights that your adult spouse has, like to file for divorce and to open bank accounts independently.

    The minimum marriage age should be the age of majority and I don’t care if your culture dislikes it. If you don’t trust someone is old enough to sign a contract, why are you letting someone sign that contract? If they aren’t old enough to purchase pornography, why are you letting them enter into a legal commitment with a sexual component? If they can’t legally independently demand divorce why are you letting them marry at all?

    We had to put a line between child and adult somewhere and 18 seems a pretty good place, but crossing that line grants an immense amount of freedom and independence.

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      Too immature to be allowed to drink. Mature enough to raise children.

      Yeah, no. Marriage should be 21 and up.

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          I used to be. But when I turned 30 I realized that I wasn’t properly sane until I was in my late 20s.

          We’ve figured out that brains don’t finish maturing until around 25. So to me, 21 is a compromise.

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            I wasn’t properly sane until I was experienced. Ive seen sheltering make for stupid 30 year olds snd I’ve seen a 21 year old on her second kid who seemed to have it shockingly together. But I also come back to the stance of freedom for adults.

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              Indeed. But the question to me is, when are they an adult? We have to pick some fairly arbitrary age, and to me 18 seems young.

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      Appalachian milfs and I have a thing for each other

      Thanks, I blew air out of my nose harder than usual.

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      Surprised at your comment. Just last month I read a review of all variations of milfs in the US. Top rated milfs were the Appalachian milfs. And it makes sense. They marry young and have kids when they are young. They have much less mileage on them compared to the overwhelming amount of milfs.

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      If you’re going to allow marriage below the age of majority, emancipation should be included. It makes a terrible idea just slightly better.