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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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    This would imply that regardless of any other possible causes, I am deserving of ridicule because I don’t live life like you

    No.

    I was right to say “because of social anxiety, btw, not that you’d care”, because immediately here’s a reply that implies my social anxiety is not real, or it is but it’s not relevant. You assume the worst of me because I dare not have a girlfriend

    No.

    However, what I do care is if people assume I’m a horrible piece of shit because of it.

    No one assumes this just because you don’t have a girlfriend. It is the narrative you have around the lack of girlfriend that gives that away.

    My reply to you is useless. I never had a girlfriend and therefore anything I say is discarded because I have to be an asshole in order for that to be the case.

    You, like most incels and misogynists, are a vulnerable narcissist. That is why you are constantly playing victim and changing the narrative to fit the idea that you’re a victim. That is also why you have social issues - you don’t know how to love unconditionally/engage in radical acceptance. However, you’re going to pathologically change this info I gave you into you being a victim somehow, and you can just save it. I don’t care and won’t give you any narcissistic supply to feed your victim narrative.

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      You, like most incels and misogynists, are a vulnerable narcissist.

      Go. back. to. reddit.

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      I don’t care and won’t give you any narcissistic supply to feed your victim narrative.

      Weird thing to say at the end of a comment where you proved every concern of his right

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        It is not my job to manage his feelings. That’s caretaking a narcissist and makes them worse. It’s ok to communicate (ie “I do not care”) and put up boundaries (I won’t respond). Further, his main concern was that him not having a girlfriend makes others label him as weird - no. It’s that he himself is weird, not anything to do with women. So no, I did nothing to “confirm” his false beliefs, it is not my job as a woman to caretake or cater to his fears or perform emotional labor for men. Grow up.

        But nice attempt at DARVO there

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          But nice attempt at DARVO there

          You dregs from reddit are so much worse than the Eternal November dregs from Twitter, at least most of those had a couple brain cells to rub together and maybe also one or two original thoughts in their entire life.

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          You just called him a narcissist for expressing his feelings.

          It went from him saying “maybe don’t attack men over their relationship status” and you take offense at “not being the caretaker of their emotions” and continue to attack him, while also invoking the very same darvo you’re employing…

          How are you lacking this much self awareness?

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            No, I didn’t, read again.

            No, he didn’t, read again.

            I’m not going to cater to you either, just letting you know since you clearly have the same vulnerable narcissism lmfao. Go pound sand

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              You have a real knack for demonstrably defeating your own arguments as you are making them. It’s honestly impressive.

              Do you even know what narcissism is? You’re just throwing that at everyone who cares to point how how wrong you are, regardless of any lack of speaking about themself.

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                Lol amazing, so much projection and grandiosity in that comment alone. Go away, boring. No one cares.

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                  There’s no projection here. You’ve been throwing unprompted insults at everyone that responds to you all over this thread.

                  You can stop pretending you’re the one in the right, here. No one else buys it.

                  You continue to lack any self awareness.

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                    “You, you, you.” Sure, there’s no projection here lmfao. Vulnerable narcs are honestly pathetic and so, so boring.