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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

  • Bronzebeard@lemmy.zipEnglish
    82·
    2 days ago

    You just called him a narcissist for expressing his feelings.

    It went from him saying “maybe don’t attack men over their relationship status” and you take offense at “not being the caretaker of their emotions” and continue to attack him, while also invoking the very same darvo you’re employing…

    How are you lacking this much self awareness?

    • LustyArgonian@lemmy.worldEnglish
      38·
      2 days ago

      No, I didn’t, read again.

      No, he didn’t, read again.

      I’m not going to cater to you either, just letting you know since you clearly have the same vulnerable narcissism lmfao. Go pound sand

      • Bronzebeard@lemmy.zipEnglish
        82·
        2 days ago

        You have a real knack for demonstrably defeating your own arguments as you are making them. It’s honestly impressive.

        Do you even know what narcissism is? You’re just throwing that at everyone who cares to point how how wrong you are, regardless of any lack of speaking about themself.

        • LustyArgonian@lemmy.worldEnglish
          38·
          2 days ago

          Lol amazing, so much projection and grandiosity in that comment alone. Go away, boring. No one cares.

          • Bronzebeard@lemmy.zipEnglish
            72·
            2 days ago

            There’s no projection here. You’ve been throwing unprompted insults at everyone that responds to you all over this thread.

            You can stop pretending you’re the one in the right, here. No one else buys it.

            You continue to lack any self awareness.

            • LustyArgonian@lemmy.worldEnglish
              36·
              1 day ago

              “You, you, you.” Sure, there’s no projection here lmfao. Vulnerable narcs are honestly pathetic and so, so boring.

              • Bronzebeard@lemmy.zipEnglish
                3·
                1 day ago

                Are you under the impression that anytime someone speaks to you, it’s projection?

                Are you unable to see that the person who thinks they can just dismiss people on a public forum who point out the blatant issues with their “argument” is the actual narcissist here? I agree people like you are pathetic.

                If you were really bored you’d stop responding

                • LustyArgonian@lemmy.worldEnglish
                  36·
                  1 day ago

                  Gee, except what I said was based on substance, I directly quoted what he said and explained the issue, and I provided links elsewhere that support this:

                  https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-of-a-vulnerable-narcissist-7369901

                  I also called him a misogynist and I am not a misogynist- so that there seems like I’m just criticizing, not projecting.

                  Although harboring a grandiose sense of self importance, entitlement and need for admiration, a type of narcissism known as vulnerable narcissism is also characterized by feelings of insecurity, low self-esteem, and hypersensitivity to criticism

                  People with this type of narcissism tend to be more vulnerable to rejection and have difficulty forming meaningful relationships. They may also become easily overwhelmed and have difficulty dealing with stress

                  “A vulnerable narcissist describes someone who is hypersensitive to rejection and extremely self-conscious. They tend to be insecure, as well. They become angry or offended when not put on a pedestal. A person with vulnerable narcissism is highly sensitive to criticism. People with vulnerable narcissism often lack empathy. If they do show empathy it is used to build their own self-importance.”

                  Hm, that’s him in every comment. I was right. My argument was supported. You just have weird baseless accusations as an attempt to control the narrative so you can continue to get narc supply.

                  Bonus link on the connection between narcissists and misogynists (ie him, you and his other defenders/flying monkeys): https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11199-020-01193-3

                  • starman2112@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
                    61·
                    1 day ago

                    except what I said was based on substance, I directly quoted what he said and explained the issue

                    Let’s take a closer look at the comment

                    This would imply that regardless of any other possible causes, I am deserving of ridicule because I don’t live life like you

                    No.

                    Actually, the post does imply the thing he says it implies, as it implies that men who don’t get laid simply have an unenjoyable and unrelaxing presence. But that’s not a form of ridicule? Ok.

                    I was right to say “because of social anxiety, btw, not that you’d care”, because immediately here’s a reply that implies my social anxiety is not real, or it is but it’s not relevant. You assume the worst of me because I dare not have a girlfriend

                    No.

                    Actually, he was entirely correct to assume that the person responding to him would immediately disregard his social anxiety, and they did in fact assume the worst of him by implying that he thinks society owes him access to attractive women, pulling that idea completely out of their asshole.

                    However, what I do care is if people assume I’m a horrible piece of shit because of it.

                    No one assumes this just because you don’t have a girlfriend. It is the narrative you have around the lack of girlfriend that gives that away.

                    Do you know this guy or something? Have you ever been an adult male virgin? Social attitudes towards adult male virgins are slightly better than attitudes towards pedophiles. Not having any prior relationships is seen as an enormous red flag the older you get.

                    I also called him a misogynist and I am not a misogynist

                    Yeah, you’re not a mysoginist, you’re a misandrist. Same difference. Hey, you know it’s really harmful to attempt to diagnose mental illnesses in other people when you aren’t a mental health professional and were not hired to diagnose them, right? It’s super harmful to assert that someone has a mental illness, and then insult them for having the mental illness you just pretended to diagnose.

                    But yeah, everyone who disagrees with you is a narcissist who’s projecting all of their issues on you, and you’re the only reasonable person here