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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

    • TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today
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      And this group makes up a relevant portion of leftist spaces?

      I mean I don’t think the person is really accusing all men, or even lonely men of this, just those who self identify as belonging to a “male loneliness epidemic” a term that’s often utilized by alt right influencers.

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        And this group makes up a relevant portion of leftist spaces?

        for deplorable American values of ❝leftist,❞ yes, not sure where you’ve been the last few years assuming you’re genuinely asking.

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          Do you think it’s completely baseless? I mean there’s people like Andrew tate with millions of viewers who subscribe to this type of behavior. Do you think that the rebuttal outweighs the originating source?

          I just don’t even see why you would lump yourself in with the accused? Unless you are someone following someone like tate, why do you think they are talking about you?

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            ah, okay, so you weren’t genuinely asking, you were being smug and baiting with gotchas. noted.

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              Lol, no it’s an actual question. I don’t really see any gotcha-like statements, just explaining my point of view.

              Btw accusations aren’t really a rebuttal. Good attempt though!

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            We don’t lump ourselves in with the accused. The people accusing so often paint with such a broad brush that if it were directed at any demographic other than men, it would be immediately attacked for being racist/sexist/pick a sexuality phobic. But since it’s attacking men, it gets a pass for some reason among left and center leaning media.

            ~45% of men aren’t voting for the right, but they’re getting attacked for the actions of those that did. If anyone speaks up against that, they get mocked for dating to say “not all men”, as if standing up for yourself against baseless accusations is repulsive because we dared to have the same sewage equipment as some bad people. You can see it in this thread.

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              ~45% of men aren’t voting for the right, but they’re getting attacked for the actions of those that did. If anyone speaks up against that, they get mocked for dating to say “not all men”

              Is this a US thing? Are things this fucked up over there?

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              We don’t lump ourselves in with the accused. The people accusing so often paint with such a broad brush that if it were directed at any demographic other than men, it would be immediately attacked for being racist/sexist/pick a sexuality phobic.

              People who self identify as being part of the male loneliness epidemic is a broad stroke? I very much doubt anyone who isn’t chronically online even knows what that is…

              ~45% of men aren’t voting for the right, but they’re getting attacked for the actions of those that did.

              By who…? No significant portion of society is making that claim, you are painting with a pretty broad stroke there.

              If anyone speaks up against that, they get mocked for dating to say “not all men”, as if standing up for yourself against baseless accusations is repulsive because we dared to have the same sewage equipment as some bad people. You can see it in this thread.

              What I see throughout the majority of this thread is people sharing your views. People making generalities against women or leftist and then accusing them of making false generalities.

              Anytime someone makes a criticism of a male trait they instantly claim not all men, despite no one claiming that it applied to all men.

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                Many men come forward about being lonely and they get told exactly the bullshit that’s in the OP. We’re literally commenting on the proof behind what I’m saying and you’re finding some way to try to deny it’s happening.

                I wasn’t making generalities against women or left leaning people, if you read the words I actually wrote, instead of the strawman you wanted to attack, you’d see I mentioned there are a lot of attacks against men expressing this issue coming from those other groups. That’s not painting any group anything. It’s saying there’s a breakdown in communication coming from those directions, not saying everyone there is the problem.

                Anytime someone makes a criticism of a male trait they instantly claim not all men, despite no one claiming that it applied to all men.

                Do you not see the issue with calling it a male trait and then immediately trying to backpedal and claim you didn’t mean all men?

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                  Many men come forward about being lonely and they get told exactly the bullshit that’s in the OP.

                  No one is critical of men just being lonely… They are critical when lonely men blame everyone else and then use it as an excuse to be assholes.

                  wasn’t making generalities against women or left leaning people, if you read the words I actually wrote, instead of the strawman you wanted to attack, you’d see I mentioned there are a lot of attacks against men expressing this issue coming from those other groups.

                  “Other groups”, “from those directions”… Being really specific there bud.

                  Do you not see the issue with calling it a male trait and then immediately trying to backpedal and claim you didn’t mean all men?

                  Not really, by in large the vast majority of violence is committed by males, that does not mean all males are violent. Nuance is a thing…

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                    I’m aware nuance is a thing. It’s often left behind when attacking men for this shit. All men. Not just those who’ve decided to excuse their assholes behavior.

                    Like “hey people are getting shouted down for voicing a concern about this” and you run in and start shouting them down saying “no they’re not”.

                    You’ve dismissed their experience, without nuance, and providing a good example of the very behavior you claim is not happening.

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            My issue is with how its talked about and all the generalization of men. And I think the dialog around it feeds these boys to the likes of tate. These kids grow up hearing that man vs bear shit, being told their problems don’t matter and that they are the root cause of all the world’s problems. We basically are telling them that is where they belong.