My friend joined a car forum, because she’s into cars. She wanted to ask about car components, and the thread got about 14 pages in just a few days, but most people weren’t actually answering her questions, they just kept accusing her of being a man because the forum apparently once had someone “pretending to be a woman”. They kept calling her he/him, even though she said that she is a she (she’s cis). She’s 23 and most of the userbase on the mentioned forum are men in their 30’s and 40’s. She was being civil throughout the entire thing mentioning that it’s rude to misgender someone. Apparently the way she talked was too “proper” to be “girly” and people responded that her knowledge of car components was a “red flag” that she must secretly be a man. She pointed out that she doesn’t know why they’re so obsessed over a random stranger’s genitals and they replied back with “you’re the one who mentioned genitals, we think you’re the obsessed one here”. I wish that I was joking. Reminds me of the internet 20 years ago.

  • Balerion@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    As a person who figured out I’m not entirely cis partially because of feeling exactly this way, I just wanted to let you know you may want to look into non-binary identities.

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      2 days ago

      Holy f—

      Just chill my guy. Not everyone cares about your genitals on the Internet. It’s a pretty normal posture to have.

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        Not to be contrarian, but the internet is full of people who care a lot about genitals. Pro, con, admirers, haters, artisans, maintenance, genitals are always a popular topic on the internet…

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        Don’t be an asshole about this. I’m just saying that the whole “taking joy in not being easily identified as male or female” might not be a wholly cis feeling. I said nothing about genitals, nor did I insist that this person must be non-binary. I just put forth a suggestion.

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        Not that you had a worthwhile or intelligent point to make either way, but the fact that you censored the word fuck just makes it all the more lame. Maybe put on some big boy pants before you talk to the group next time.