32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?

  • bacon_pdp@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    It is not your words but your actions that indicates that you are caring and first interest is not rational for anyone so no point in trying to game it as it only comes off as non-genuine.

      • Sonor@lemmy.world
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        5 days ago

        While that is true, i think it also nicely points out that dating apps are actually not a great way to find a partner anymore

        • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
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          4 days ago

          I mean, they were never, like, a fun way to meet a partner. But they certainly are a way.

          • Sonor@lemmy.world
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            4 days ago

            i can see that, certainly. and there are cases where they are unavoidable. But still (and i show my age here) I’d still rather avoid them if at all possible

            • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
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              4 days ago

              A totally understandable take. On the other hand, I personally find them quite useful, and don’t think they should be dismissed out of hand. And I think that if someone wants advice on using them effectively (going back to my original post in this thread), that they should be given advice on using them effectively - not platitudes.