I don’t know what to think about it:
On one hand she looked ridiculous, wearing expensive make up and clothes, dyed hair, polished nails… the whole nine yards. She was together with a man who I thought was her husband, turns out was her son who was with her to make sure she doesn’t wander off. She was slow giving answers and wanted to walk away, but her son always told her not to and to wait for the ambulance.
On the other hand, who am I to judge that woman if it makes her happy to dress like that? in 5 years or less she might not even remember her name. Who cares what she looks like? let her live like she wants.
this got me thinking, because on a previous post about aging another member of lemmy wrote never to act your age and to remain curious about anything, never to think that my way or my generation’s way of doing things is the only right one as a way to avoid being a judgemental, sad and angry old person and to avoid dementia. Ain’t this woman doing exactly this, not acting her age?
Still, to me looks like a complete waste of a life not to act your age to pretend being 40 years younger than you are. I would hate myself if all I can think about when I’m 80 is how to have sex with somebody 60 years my junior.
Is my future going to be that, to dress to look younger to try and get some attention from the opposite sex?
You sound young, so this response is based on that judgement (pardon me)
Answer to your question - No you won’t. You decide how you want to live your life. You can look however you want as you age up.
Another thing to be mindful of - Life is shorter than it seems. Prejudices are needless burdens that creep into our minds — the sooner we let them go, the more fully we can live.
Why do you think her appearance is meant to attract sex partners or to fool ppl about her age?
That’s what I was gonna ask too.
What even is “dressing your age?” There are styles of dressing that are objectively correct for each age group? Where do I look these up, along with what the age delineations are for each group?
Who the fuck cares how others are dressing?
This obvious young person, apparently.
- Judgmental? Check.
- Arrogant? Check.
- Shamelessly certain they know the best ways for others to think, feel, live, act? Check.
- Thinks 52 is ‘old?’ Check.
- Has no idea what a dick they present as? Double check.
Wait, they could also be a republican.
Putting in the effort to dress in the way one has come to think is appropriate for appearing in public is a form of self-care. For some people, from certain generations or cultures or who have adopted the habit to their identity, that may be more formal or elaborate than for others.
That a person of an advanced age, possibly suffering some mental decline still does this is a great thing, and very good for their well-being.
An adult dressing like an adult feels completely appropriate to me.
Even if someone was dressing younger to get attention I don’t really see a problem with it, but maybe I’m biased because I think everyone should be able to be slutty or promiscuous as long as they’re being ethical about it.
who am I to judge that woman if it makes her happy to dress like that?
literally no one. here’s a tip: if you feel the need to judge what a woman is wearing, put out your eyes instead. then it’s no longer your concern.
One way to look at it is different standards - my mother-in-law, also somewhat old, wouldn’t be caught dead without makeup and hair, regardless of the reason. You assume she’s dressing for others. She’s dressing for both herself and how society use to be.
Why do you think someone 80 should dress any differenty? 80 is not even that old. My mom is like 95 and dresses the same pretty much she did decades ago.
As far as makeup and nails, that often looks foolish at any age.
I’ve seen some straight GILFs at my job, and they dress “young” for their age.
