For #1, I even teach my daughter that she doesn’t have to have her night-night kisses from me. She’s 3. She loves getting kisses from me during the day, but she hasn’t wanted a night-night kiss from me in weeks. We tell her aunts, uncles, and grandparents (the only family who really might try to kiss her), that she’s allowed to say no. She needs to know she can say no to physical acts from anyone if they are unwelcome, and she can decide they’re welcome sometimes and not others, even from the same person. She’s very assertive already, and I’m trying to make sure she understands why that helps her. I don’t want these Magats, incels, or even overzealous boyfriends making her do anything she’s not up for.
For #1, I even teach my daughter that she doesn’t have to have her night-night kisses from me. She’s 3. She loves getting kisses from me during the day, but she hasn’t wanted a night-night kiss from me in weeks. We tell her aunts, uncles, and grandparents (the only family who really might try to kiss her), that she’s allowed to say no. She needs to know she can say no to physical acts from anyone if they are unwelcome, and she can decide they’re welcome sometimes and not others, even from the same person. She’s very assertive already, and I’m trying to make sure she understands why that helps her. I don’t want these Magats, incels, or even overzealous boyfriends making her do anything she’s not up for.
That’s absolutely excellent. You don’t ever have to kiss anyone you don’t want to EVER. I love seeing assertive girls!